Ravenscroft
Banned
I started writing this in another thread, & decided that it would only be unhelpful there.
(FWIW: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=96602)
It's a fairly common script with all the usual setups, melodrama, & outfall.
The socalled "relationship escalator" is a script: find your Soul Mate, marry, buy a house, spawn, retire, die -- leaving out the last step, it's pretty much every show on The Hallmark Channel.
Even the musical cues are interchangeable (& the network could save itself a few bucks by simply buying a few tracks & reusing them on multiple episodes).
Some people persist in calling certain scripts "drama," but that's not true, any more than Hallmark movies are proper drama except in an extremely superficial sense. Drama is FUN... when undertaken by people who are aware when they're going for gut honesty & when they're totally hamming it up ("chewing the scenery").
I've long argued that the proper term is cheap melodrama,
However, it's no less scripty (to use the Transactional Analysis term). To follow Eric Berne's example (i.e., Waiting For Santa Claus), the script that brought me here really ought to have a title because it appears on this site so regularly, but I've got no suggestion.
Among other scripty elements, it involves monogamy + 1, serial wing-walking, "support you in exploring your (heretofore nonexistent) bi side," & fortuitous accidents.
I'm not being cynical to point out that, now the BF has accidentally (indeed, sorrowfully) cowboyed the OP away from her husband, he wants to lock her down to monogamy... except of course for using her as bait to lure a Hot New Chick (married, maybe?) into having a threeway, "just this once, honey, as an experiment" (of course) but after a few fun nights leading toward "she ought to just move in with us."
The only way to not be played by a script is to REFUSE to act it out. And that means first recognizing that it's a SCRIPT. Anyone who defends their playing a character does NOT want solutions except maybe how to sit back & enjoy being a Virtuous Loser, who at the end of the bad romance novel will be Sadder But Wiser.
If anyone wants to suggest a brief title for the above-presented script, or to introduce other scripts they've noticed in the category "Poly In Trouble," hop in.
(FWIW: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=96602)
It's a fairly common script with all the usual setups, melodrama, & outfall.
The socalled "relationship escalator" is a script: find your Soul Mate, marry, buy a house, spawn, retire, die -- leaving out the last step, it's pretty much every show on The Hallmark Channel.
Even the musical cues are interchangeable (& the network could save itself a few bucks by simply buying a few tracks & reusing them on multiple episodes).Some people persist in calling certain scripts "drama," but that's not true, any more than Hallmark movies are proper drama except in an extremely superficial sense. Drama is FUN... when undertaken by people who are aware when they're going for gut honesty & when they're totally hamming it up ("chewing the scenery").
I've long argued that the proper term is cheap melodrama,
There are times on this site where I suspect that we are being played, that the story has been cooked up by someone who fancies themselves An Author &/or likes the idea of making "the poly community" look like a squawking gaggle of gullible morons. FWIW, I don't believe that to be at all true about the thread I cited above.
However, it's no less scripty (to use the Transactional Analysis term). To follow Eric Berne's example (i.e., Waiting For Santa Claus), the script that brought me here really ought to have a title because it appears on this site so regularly, but I've got no suggestion.
Among other scripty elements, it involves monogamy + 1, serial wing-walking, "support you in exploring your (heretofore nonexistent) bi side," & fortuitous accidents.
I'm not being cynical to point out that, now the BF has accidentally (indeed, sorrowfully
) cowboyed the OP away from her husband, he wants to lock her down to monogamy... except of course for using her as bait to lure a Hot New Chick (married, maybe?) into having a threeway, "just this once, honey, as an experiment" (of course) but after a few fun nights leading toward "she ought to just move in with us." The only way to not be played by a script is to REFUSE to act it out. And that means first recognizing that it's a SCRIPT. Anyone who defends their playing a character does NOT want solutions except maybe how to sit back & enjoy being a Virtuous Loser, who at the end of the bad romance novel will be Sadder But Wiser.
If anyone wants to suggest a brief title for the above-presented script, or to introduce other scripts they've noticed in the category "Poly In Trouble," hop in.