Single Man new to Poly in Albuquerque

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Go4Jack

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Hello everyone- My name is "Jack" and I am a single man new to the Polyamorous lifestyle. In fact, I have always been involved in monogamous relationships with women and in two cases married.

I am a heterosexual man and not interested in the slightest in men or exploring anything with men.

I am here to learn all that I can about the Poly lifestyle beyond the research I have done on my own over the past few years. In particular I am specifically interested in learning more about the dynamics of FMF Triad/OPP relationships.

Any insights or help anyone can provide is greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance for all of your help! I look forward to future discussions and learnings.
 
Hello and welcome!

A One Penis Policy are generally frowned upon if it is "enforced" or insisted upon by the man in a FMF. If it is what the women truly want and are happy with, that is okay.

However, seriously, if you (as the male) want to have multiple partners of whichever sex or gender floats your boat (females), why shouldn't any woman you are with also have the same choice, whether she wants sex with a man or a woman? Why would you want to limit a woman's chance to express herself sexually if she wanted more than just your cock? Do you see any real benefit to being the only penis either of them can have, when they should be in charge of their own sexuality and choice of sex partner? See what I mean?

Usually, any guy who demands an OPP is insecure and fearful. Would you be afraid of not measuring up in comparison? Why does OPP appeal to you when you are totally new to poly? It's about love, not sex, so why would the sex of someone your partner loves matter? Do you think it degrades a woman to have more than one male lover at a time?

These are all good things to ask yourself.
 
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Hello nycindi

I appreciate your reply. Let me rebut by saying I am not demanding anything from anyone in any relationship. I support everyone exploring their sexuality and relationships. I'm simply trying to learn more about the dynamics of the FMF Triad and OPP relationships. At this point I am ignorant and merely seeking to understand. As far as my insecurities - everyone has them at some point in their life - I am no different. With that being said, I am not concerned about how I would or would not measure up. If that's a woman's primary concern then I'd rather not be with someone so superficial. How would a woman feel if men insisted on a woman having the largests breasts or being the tighests? Insecure. At any rate, I'm simply wanting to learn about the Poly lifestyle in all of it's aspects. I just happened to be most interested in the FMF Triad and OPP dynamics hence my initial inquiry. I want to thank you again for your reply. Your points are being considered and I will ask myself those questions to help me better understand where I stand. ☺️
 
Yeah, the questions I posted weren't meant to be accusatory. I was sharing the general attitude among polyfolk toward OPPs, and suggested those questions as things to think about. If you click on the search link at top, and do a Tag Search for OPP or do an Advanced Search for "One Penis Policy" (with quotes and the words fully spelled out - the Advanced Search only works with terms that are four letters or more long), you will be able to read an awful lot about it!
 
Greetings Jack,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

A triad has all three people romantically involved with each other, so I suppose you would need two bisexual women to make an OPP FMF triad work. It is both highly popular and heavily criticized. Takes patience to put together.

I don't know if that helps ... I'm happy to answer any further questions you may have.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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