It turns out Sam didn't have to work the overnight after all. He won't be working his normal shift tonight either. His supervisor had decided to assign him at a different house, one that he doesn’t mind working at for overtime, but definitely not his preference. He’s going to have to talk to him about that. This job is a cakewalk and that is why Sam works here. But if they dick around with his schedule he’s going to end up leaving. The company is short-staffed as it is, and Sam is almost always willing to pick up shifts, so it’s in their best interest to keep him happy.
One of the reasons I choose to be a manager is because I like having a set schedule. No one has a set schedule except management. That wouldn’t fly with me either. My supervisor makes the schedules because we have a team of 4 hours where all members are cross trained. It makes sense for her to create schedules so she can pull people from other houses, as needed.
One time she asked if I could cover certain shifts, and I said yes. Well, all she did was switch my shifts. I made it clear after that that I am willing to take other shifts if they are overtime, but I am not willing to change my schedule and that won’t be happening again. I like my schedule, especially now that I’m working a double shift (evening and overnight) and overnight, two 3 hour shifts (taking a client out on activities like eating and movies) and I have 6 hours of manager time. I’m never willing to give up overnights for non-overnight shifts.
I'm a control freak. I completely admit it. I like what I like and change is hard for me. When things are out of balance in my life, I really feel it. I hate chaos. I grew up moving a lot. I was abused and neglected and raised by drug addicts and alcoholics. I chose to leave home when I was a teenager and never go back for a reason. So I avoid any kind of discomfort.
The other thread where I say I only date monogamous men because I don’t want to deal with a metamour is the truth. I never got with men that had a lot of family baggage for the same reason. I don’t do family drama. I cut people out of my life that tend to cause me issues. That’s just the way I have always been. Even as a young child of 6 I remember walking away from a friendship that caused me grief.
This is also why I am a manager. I’ve got an A type personality and I’m good at what I do. I do the menus, shopping, dr appts, make sure that the chores I assign are being done, that staff are documenting correctly and that the clients are being cared for in the way they are supposed to be. I’m very good at my job. I’m fair but firm. I run a tight ship and my staff respect me. We rarely have med errors at our house and we frequently get house of the month. When I was on maternity leave my staff were asking my boss on a weekly basis when I was coming back. lol
That being said, as a mother I have learned to not control my children. I love and accept them for who they are. I take a very hands-off approach and raise them to be free thinkers and individuals. My oldest, son for example, is 16.5. He can come and go as he pleases for the most part. It’s not uncommon for him to stay our late. But he’s a good boy, with good friends, and I trust his judgement. I do make him wear a bike helmet though.
He identifies and bisexual and bi-gendered. He has magenta hair and often wears girl's clothes and carries a purse. I asked him if he’s ever embarrassed to wear stuff like that in public. He said at first he was, but now he doesn’t care. I love that he’s so comfortable in his skin and that his friends respect him. He’s such a handsome and smart person. I’m proud to be his mom and glad that we have a good relationship. He’s responsible and respectful, for the most part, and I feel like I did a great job raising him. I really love that my ex accepts him too and has never tried to act all macho about having an effeminate son.
