Hi everyone,
I'm Tinwen and I've been in a polyamorous "V" shaped relationship for a good twelve years now. I had a long blog with all the insecurities of the early years in there, and I decided it's time to re-introduce myself as I enter a new chapter of life.
The title of this thread is a Tolkien reference. So is my nickname. "Tinwe-" means spark, while "wen" indicates a maiden name (like in Arwen).
I'm from central/eastern Europe.
In our polycule, my partner is the hinge. I have identified as monogamish (one stable partner, and just an occasional venture beyond the traditional borders with kink or tantric workshops for most of our relationship) until last year, when I was able to live through a full-blown NRE (although not reciprocated with the same intensity) with a stable kink partner and experience that my feelings for Idealist didn't change because of that. Now I can finally cautiously identify as polyamorous
Idealist has a school-aged kid with Meta, who is also mostly monogamous by choice. We're more garden-party/parallel, not super close, though we do share social circles and used to do some music with Meta. We're making it all work by owning/renting two apartments in the same building.
The big news is, I have a baby with Idealist coming very soon! So it's not impossible there will be some changes to the relationship dynamic too
Relationships and babies asside, I studied physics and attempted a science career, which I failed at (or it failed me). Although not quite done grieving that dream, this huuuuge chapter of my life is now closed too. I expect the new chapter to - possibly - be wildly different. Wish me luck.
I'm Tinwen and I've been in a polyamorous "V" shaped relationship for a good twelve years now. I had a long blog with all the insecurities of the early years in there, and I decided it's time to re-introduce myself as I enter a new chapter of life.
The title of this thread is a Tolkien reference. So is my nickname. "Tinwe-" means spark, while "wen" indicates a maiden name (like in Arwen).
I'm from central/eastern Europe.
In our polycule, my partner is the hinge. I have identified as monogamish (one stable partner, and just an occasional venture beyond the traditional borders with kink or tantric workshops for most of our relationship) until last year, when I was able to live through a full-blown NRE (although not reciprocated with the same intensity) with a stable kink partner and experience that my feelings for Idealist didn't change because of that. Now I can finally cautiously identify as polyamorous
Idealist has a school-aged kid with Meta, who is also mostly monogamous by choice. We're more garden-party/parallel, not super close, though we do share social circles and used to do some music with Meta. We're making it all work by owning/renting two apartments in the same building.
The big news is, I have a baby with Idealist coming very soon! So it's not impossible there will be some changes to the relationship dynamic too
Relationships and babies asside, I studied physics and attempted a science career, which I failed at (or it failed me). Although not quite done grieving that dream, this huuuuge chapter of my life is now closed too. I expect the new chapter to - possibly - be wildly different. Wish me luck.
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