Therapy - Strength vs weakness

[Ariakas]

Thanks guys .. I don't know what I expected wanted from posting this. It's really a feeling inside of me.

As I progress in .. one area. I find another area of poly that tweaks me. I question my polyness and I question .. well it doesn't matter. This stuff is just exponentially more difficult.

But crap I really love my people.

 

[Openbook23]

This past week, in a joint therapy session, where my wife was sitting next to me, the therapist and I uncovered my deeply rooted need to people please and be a "good boy". I started crying, and the therapist asked me how it makes me feel to think about how much of a role that plays in my life. Through my tears I said, "Unseen."

My wife was nothing but supportive. She even found a video on IG yesterday where a therapist was saying things that people who grew up this way need to hear. She doesn't see me as weak for doing this work. She knows that it takes incredible strength to dive into your own shadows and bring them out into the light.

 

[jantjen91]

My inner child was knife fighting, managing to live on his own doing his own chores and had the sexual interest of an 18 year old. My 9 year old self wasn't allowed to be a kid. He was surviving.

How you see and act in relationships are heavily influenced by the relationships you had as a child. The therapist may be talking about your "inner child" to show you how past trauma affects the decisions you make now and how to change how you think in certain situations and how that can make you a better husband, lover and person.

 

[Ariakas]

How you see and act in relationships are heavily influenced by the relationships you had as a child. The therapist may be talking about your "inner child" to show you how past trauma affects the decisions you make now and how to change how you think in certain situations and how that can make you a better husband, lover and person.

Yes they are. The reflection and introspection was super useful

The speaking to the inner child to calm my nerves wasnt a successful management technique



Really I have a scarcity issue. .. seeing violence and having the wounds physically, I abhore physical violence unless defending myself or family.