CowleyRoad
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With all the crazy doubts you have
Monday night I expected us to be broken up. So why did Monday night come and go and not only did we not break up, but nothing changed?
Brook was as nervous as hell, and so was Sky. So I ended up doing most of the talking. I reiterated that Sky was upset that Hunter seemed to be calling the shots, even though he wasn't part of the relationship in the first place. I also said that Sky wanted to be treated with more passion than she had been in the past. Brook was sorry about that and wanted to make sure my wife got more attention.
I offered to pull back and let Sky get the lion's share of attention from Brook for a couple weeks. I actually offered not to be in contact with Brook at all, but Sky vetoed that because she felt guilty that my relationship with Brook was going to suffer with absolutely no conversation. For her part, Brook wanted to talk to Hunter about not going swinging at all. We were pretty nervous about that, but Brook felt she could do it without upsetting him.
So, at first it seemed like things were going to resolve. Sky and Brook planned a trip out by themselves for Sunday (i.e., today), and Brook started sending her several times as many texts as she did me.
Then, inevitably, the bottom started falling out. First, Sky started getting upset that she wasn't getting "serious" texts from Brook. She was upset that I texted Brook one night, and said that I still wanted her (emotionally and sexually), and she responded in kind.
Sky said she wanted that same kind of emotion. She claimed that she had sent several texts along those lines to Brook, and hadn't gotten a response. When I asked if I could see them she first told me no, then claimed she'd deleted the conversations, then admitted that she "had a hard time opening up." Then, when she did show me the texts, it was obvious that Brook was being very serious to her, including saying some things that she never had and wouldn't tell me.
But Sky was still upset that I have the relationship she wants from Brook. Although to be honest, I have still only seen Brook alone once, in public, and as you'll see, that isn't going to change. And as I said, Brook is barely texting me at all anymore. So I'm not sure what I have that Sky wants.
The other deal is that Brook went ahead and told Hunter that she wasn't interested in swinging any more. To her surprise, and TBH disappointment, Hunter said, "Fine, whatever." She was expecting a big fight, there wasn't one, so she started thinking that Hunter just didn't care and was emotionally checking out.
She was upset about that, and called us in a terrible mood on Wednesday about it. The next day it seemed that Hunter changed his mind about not caring completely, because he told Brook he didn't want her and Sky going anywhere by themselves because "he felt left out." Which frustrated the women, understandably, as they looked forward to being together, but more importantly, well, he's not a part of their relationship, so why does he feel he can go around vetoing things or indeed feel left out in the first place? Sky feels incredibly upset by that, and, frankly, so do I. He was always okay with them seeing each other on their own. Now he isn't? It seems as though he is saying, "Well, you won't let me swing, so I'm going to throw a wrench in your polyamory."
So we're supposed to drive down to see them in an hour and a half, and for the first Sunday night since we started doing this I have absolutely no desire to. I've barely corresponded with Brook anyway this week.
Honestly, I'm pissed off at both of them. Hunter for messing with the relationship, and Brook for letting it happen and not seeming particularly upset about it all. Sky is beyond ticked about it, and to be honest, I'm surprised she doesn't want to end things. All I can think is that she does care for and love Brook, and still craves acceptance from her, but it does seem like a very thin thread holding everything together.
As for me, I suppose I could say Brook is desperately trying to juggle Hunter's insecurities and our relationship. I don't think it's going to happen. It seems like there's no way back from here.
Monday night I expected us to be broken up. So why did Monday night come and go and not only did we not break up, but nothing changed?
Brook was as nervous as hell, and so was Sky. So I ended up doing most of the talking. I reiterated that Sky was upset that Hunter seemed to be calling the shots, even though he wasn't part of the relationship in the first place. I also said that Sky wanted to be treated with more passion than she had been in the past. Brook was sorry about that and wanted to make sure my wife got more attention.
I offered to pull back and let Sky get the lion's share of attention from Brook for a couple weeks. I actually offered not to be in contact with Brook at all, but Sky vetoed that because she felt guilty that my relationship with Brook was going to suffer with absolutely no conversation. For her part, Brook wanted to talk to Hunter about not going swinging at all. We were pretty nervous about that, but Brook felt she could do it without upsetting him.
So, at first it seemed like things were going to resolve. Sky and Brook planned a trip out by themselves for Sunday (i.e., today), and Brook started sending her several times as many texts as she did me.
Then, inevitably, the bottom started falling out. First, Sky started getting upset that she wasn't getting "serious" texts from Brook. She was upset that I texted Brook one night, and said that I still wanted her (emotionally and sexually), and she responded in kind.
Sky said she wanted that same kind of emotion. She claimed that she had sent several texts along those lines to Brook, and hadn't gotten a response. When I asked if I could see them she first told me no, then claimed she'd deleted the conversations, then admitted that she "had a hard time opening up." Then, when she did show me the texts, it was obvious that Brook was being very serious to her, including saying some things that she never had and wouldn't tell me.
But Sky was still upset that I have the relationship she wants from Brook. Although to be honest, I have still only seen Brook alone once, in public, and as you'll see, that isn't going to change. And as I said, Brook is barely texting me at all anymore. So I'm not sure what I have that Sky wants.
The other deal is that Brook went ahead and told Hunter that she wasn't interested in swinging any more. To her surprise, and TBH disappointment, Hunter said, "Fine, whatever." She was expecting a big fight, there wasn't one, so she started thinking that Hunter just didn't care and was emotionally checking out.
She was upset about that, and called us in a terrible mood on Wednesday about it. The next day it seemed that Hunter changed his mind about not caring completely, because he told Brook he didn't want her and Sky going anywhere by themselves because "he felt left out." Which frustrated the women, understandably, as they looked forward to being together, but more importantly, well, he's not a part of their relationship, so why does he feel he can go around vetoing things or indeed feel left out in the first place? Sky feels incredibly upset by that, and, frankly, so do I. He was always okay with them seeing each other on their own. Now he isn't? It seems as though he is saying, "Well, you won't let me swing, so I'm going to throw a wrench in your polyamory."
So we're supposed to drive down to see them in an hour and a half, and for the first Sunday night since we started doing this I have absolutely no desire to. I've barely corresponded with Brook anyway this week.
Honestly, I'm pissed off at both of them. Hunter for messing with the relationship, and Brook for letting it happen and not seeming particularly upset about it all. Sky is beyond ticked about it, and to be honest, I'm surprised she doesn't want to end things. All I can think is that she does care for and love Brook, and still craves acceptance from her, but it does seem like a very thin thread holding everything together.
As for me, I suppose I could say Brook is desperately trying to juggle Hunter's insecurities and our relationship. I don't think it's going to happen. It seems like there's no way back from here.