Uneven Attention in Triad

[Dskins]

How long to wait

I hope it works out well for you. The only things I can think of is to discuss those certain behaviors that make you uncomfortable and feel like you're walking on eggshells. Maybe the constant discussion will get her to realize how her behavior makes you feel, or try to spend more time with her. I am in a very similar situation with my triad. It isn't a very good position to be in. You probably feel like you will have to leave if she can't get her act together. One bad apple spoils the bunch rings true in these situations. You may wonder, like me, how long should you wait for her to be completely and truly ready? I have been in my triad for 1 1/2 years now and I still just feel "tolerated." You hope she will come around sooner rather than later. Good luck.

 

[gingersnap]

The only things I can think of is discuss those certain behaviors that make you uncomfortable and feel like you're walking on eggshells. Maybe the constant discussion will get her to realize how her behavior makes you feel or try to spend more time with her. I am in a very similar situation with my triad. It isn't a very good position to be in. You probably feel like you will have to leave if she can't get her act together. You may wonder, like me, how long should you wait for her to be completely and truly ready? I have been in my triad for 1 1/2 years now and I still just feel tolerated.

Wow, a year and a half is a long time to just feel tolerated. I do hope she'll come around sooner, and if she doesn't, I know I'll have to leave. I mean, what else will I do?

I've been really busy with university and my job lately, so I haven't seen my couple much. I miss them a lot! That's how I know I want to make this work. But I also don't want to feel like I can't be my full self all the time. The relationship won't progress. I won't be happy.

Good luck to you, Dskins. I hope this posting helped you.

 

[Dskins]

Hope

I know you are stuck between a rock and a hard place. I hope it works out well and you don't lose yourself. I know you love them, but you need to ask if love is enough in these situations. If you are happy now, it's a good sign. If nothing changes and you want to stay, you may just have to accept your girlfriend for whom she is.