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wittolwife

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My husband wants romance without sex, and my boyfriend wants sex without intimacy! I know it sounds like I have it made, but I desperately want full, loving relationships with both of them.
 
Your husband may feel he is offering you a "full, loving relationship". Not everyone needs sex to feel that. Or maybe he feels he cannot have a sexual relationship with you.

Your boyfriend may feel he is giving you intimacy. Not everyone views intimacy the same way. Or, maybe, he can't offer you the level of intimacy you require from someone you consider a boyfriend.

All of these things point to you and your partners being on a different wavelength. The first thing is whether you are all willing to work on this difference or whether they aren't open to changing the relationship.
 
Hi wittolwife,

It seems that some communication is in order, you need to express to your husband and boyfriend that you desire romance, sex, and intimacy (i.e., full, loving relationships with both of them). Try to think of specific things they could do that would help you feel like that need was getting met.

Try to work within their limitations, whatever those are. Some people just aren't very good at certain things, y'know?

Regards,
Kevin T.
 
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