She's not passive aggressive in the slightest. Seems like she's plenty clear about what she wants, what she doesn't want and what the consequences are. Wondering why you've chosen to involve yourself with someone who very clearly doesn't share your values.
She is a sugar baby that needed money. Like in US, most people in Indonesia think that the best way for women is to get married. I disagree. I think transactional sex and polyamory, is better. Women can get richer men. Men can get more women. I think the true purpose of monogamy is to artificially creating poverty.
So I tested my idea. I notice that her IQ is high enough. She is a college student in public university and must have passed some tests. So good enough to produce my children. I fucked her.
During that time I am clear that I have other women I like. She also said she wanted to marry her ex teacher that took her virginity. So I do not think monogamy is an issue and I really really want to have more children. My dad has only one grandchildren and my money will be useless without children.
She got pregnant after only 3 weeks. At first I didn't know if the child is really mine. Prenatal paternity tests (followed by normal paternity tests) confirm this. So I am good at my words. Hell, not really a promise. I told her I am rich. We don't really have specific deals. Legally I can just run away. I don't. The child gets everything reasonable money can buy.
Because I am a libertarian atheist, I do not care about religious dogma or what governments want. All I care is those are things I should avoid.
Of course because I took care of my children well and her mom, another sugar baby wants to give me children too.
And we have this conflict.
Fortunately I am not legally married. So I will arrange stuffs. Call lawyers. I do not think it's appropriate to just abandon her. She gave me a child and we actually care about each other.
What I think is absurd is the idea that men can just knock women up and leave and that's legal in Indonesia. I saw kids begging on the street. In US, it's also legal for men to just knock women up and have governments paying welfare.
Yet, guys like me that don't run away is blamed for transactional sex and polygamy. I think that's absurd. I want to be responsible for my children. And if a woman wants me because of my money, that's fine. Why people are hostile to me?
I am not a muslim. However, there is a muslim that says if rich men have multiple wives, poverty will be gone. I partially agree. I do not think the woman need to be a wife though. If a woman is a wife, someone else create rules on what a wife should be. I think individuals should make rules on what relationship should be.
So I asked around and compare opinions.
As for why I like transactional sex. I don't. I do not want to pay for sex for the sake of sex. I can do that too easily. I always want loving relationship. I obviously want to be shared. I don't mind sharing though now I see this to be too problematic.
I do not see why love or sex must be one on one.
In ancient time, we do not have paternity tests. So usually a woman can only have one husband because otherwise we don't know where the wealth of the father go. Usually, in ancient time, the woman cannot have sex outside marriage under pain of death. So ancient marriage is not based on love either but based on transaction with strict penalty.
Now, we can do paternity tests. I will always know who the father is. I am of course, will only be responsible for my blood line. So what's the point of marriage and monogamy?
Transactions have other benefit. Women need to know I'll stick around financially supporting children. I also need to know that I am not scammed by women that just want money. There was a period of time where a woman says she likes "generous men". I ended up spending money on her. Not much. Only $4k for 2 sugar babies. They both don't like me. To be exact, one gets jealous and help another one to scam me.
The prettier and smarter one is willing to be gangbanged for $37 as long as I am not in it because I am too "stupid". Since then, I want to make sure that I have a chance with a woman before spending money.
How do I know? Offer money for hand job. Notice I don't even want to have sex with a woman I don't know. But I need to know she's willing to do something sexy for me. If a woman says she's not a whore, used to get paid a lot, bla bla bla, I know she doesn't like me and move on. With this method, I can "interview" a lot of women and end up with really really high IQ and beautiful sugar baby. And I am happy with the result. I am happy that at least I am not wasting time and money on women that will not like me anyway.
Then it comes to me. Relationship is transactional anyway. I spend money because I thought, wrongfully, that women like generous guy. Why not make it explicit and clear. Making sure I am not wasting money on scammers again.
I read articles like this
https://adamlanesmith.com/2019/03/24/are-transactional-relationships-bad/ it says that relationship lasts when each side gets a value.