My girlfrien and I have been together for years and we have decided that we would like to permanently share our lives with another woman. We are having trouble figuring out what this is. We aren't looking for a fwb type but more a partners for life thing. As far as I can tell, among the many confusion labels, we aren't polyamorous. What are we?
What are we?
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You may be poly, but you are also a subset of that called, I'll admit not flatteringly, "unicorn hunters." Please do a search here for more information on this, and read So Someone Called you a Unicorn Hunter.
Do the research before making this decision and pursuing a woman (this is the least-likely-to-work, but most-sought configuration in poly, probably). It will save everyone a lot of hurt and heartache if you take the time--it can take months, or even years to be actually ready to pursue poly--and don't date as a "unit" (this never works, see above).
If you have questions after reading and doing a site search here (The search function is at the top, just search "Triad," and "unicorn hunter"), there are a lot of great, experienced people here to help you.
Do the research before making this decision and pursuing a woman (this is the least-likely-to-work, but most-sought configuration in poly, probably). It will save everyone a lot of hurt and heartache if you take the time--it can take months, or even years to be actually ready to pursue poly--and don't date as a "unit" (this never works, see above).
If you have questions after reading and doing a site search here (The search function is at the top, just search "Triad," and "unicorn hunter"), there are a lot of great, experienced people here to help you.
Hi Riesen,
I think we could say you're polyamorous; at the least you want to be polyamorous.
The M/F+F triad you seek to form is enormously popular; I'm not sure why although I can do some guessing. In any case you will probably need to be patient in your search. The woman you envision will not appear right away. In the meantime, learn as much as you can about polyamory. You can post questions in this thread and get a lot of info here.
Good luck in your poly adventures.
Sincerely,
Kevin T.
I think we could say you're polyamorous; at the least you want to be polyamorous.
The M/F+F triad you seek to form is enormously popular; I'm not sure why although I can do some guessing. In any case you will probably need to be patient in your search. The woman you envision will not appear right away. In the meantime, learn as much as you can about polyamory. You can post questions in this thread and get a lot of info here.
Good luck in your poly adventures.
Sincerely,
Kevin T.
