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Blopez5293

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Pain.... When I started this journey I never imagined such pain as I feel now. It hurts to breathe and think. And all I want to do is cry. I have been crying. Non-stop since Saturday when you texted those fateful words.

I want a divorce.

Devastation and pain is my world now. I begged and pleaded you to reconsider. To give us 6 months in marriage counseling. Table the divorce talk till then. Then take stalk of where we are then make decisions. But you won't budget. And now my world crumbles around me and I look into the faces of our children and wonder what I will say.

Because one day they will ask questions and I don't know how I will answer. How am I supposed to explain something that makes no fucking sense?

I am broken. I am lost. I want my mommy.... *quietly sobbing* :-(

Is there any hope? Any way to get him to at least slow down a little and see reason. I don't know.
 
I am sorry you are hurting. I do not know what advice you wish to receive?

Sometimes things in life just do not go our way. I would like to give better advice but there is 3sides to every story. Yours his then the truth. Without the complete picture my advice is seek personal therapy for yourself.

Crying for your mommy isn't going to get you through this time.
 
Dagferi said:
Crying for your mommy isn't going to get you through this time.
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It won't solve your relationship problems, but it can get you through the night.
 
Thank you

Boring Guy. Many times on this forum I have seen you bashed for being too sarcastic it mean. I say thank you because as you so kindly pointed out, sometimes being held by your mother while you can just cry is exactly what is needed in that exact moment. I have known only a few times in my life where this is true.

The day my mother stepped off the airplane after my son died was one of them. Today us another. And yet as I am in Colorado and she in Idaho I will not get to hold her and cry today. Sometimes, I just need to hear a kind word of understanding. Thank you for that Boring Guy.
 
You're welcome. I had a mother once too... Can you call yours?
 
Blopez5293 said:
I look into the faces of our children and wonder what I will say. Because one day they will ask questions and I don't know how I will answer. How am I supposed to explain something that makes no fucking sense?
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The only input I would give is to let the present suck and don't pile the future on it as well. Breaking up is bad enough without letting questions which don't need answers plague your thoughts as well.

Focus on what you need to do in order to get through the next moment and avoid letting fears of a once possible future mess your day up any more than it already is.
 
To add to what Marcus said - just get through it. Don't worry about what it all means. Figure out what it means when you're feeling less sad and overwhelmed.
 
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