Realisticexpectations
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Did you see this coming? What was her reasoning?
wife has left me for her boyfriend
- Thread starter zappafreak
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I am so very sorry. All I can say is this. After being dumped with a 4-month old and a 4-year old, I focused on staying in the moment, the actual present moment, and my breath.
Focus on what you have to be grateful for, because no matter how much things suck, you have things to be grateful for. Get down to basics if you need to. Your child is healthy, you have a roof over your head, food in the fridge, money in the bank, your GF. You are ok right now, at this present moment.
You don't have to figure this out. If you try, you will drive yourself nuts. It sounds like you already know some things, and others will become clear over time.
Your wife is infatuated with a new lover. Plain and simple. It has nothing to do with you not being good enough, or her not loving you enough. She was missing something in her life and found it in this person, temporarily. The chances that this is a lasting stable relationship remains to be seen. Maybe she will be back.
I am sorry for you, and I am sorry for your child. You don't just leave your spouse, you leave your child too.
Don't question poly because of one bad experience. Do you stop driving a car because you have 1 accident?
Focus on what you have to be grateful for, because no matter how much things suck, you have things to be grateful for. Get down to basics if you need to. Your child is healthy, you have a roof over your head, food in the fridge, money in the bank, your GF. You are ok right now, at this present moment.
You don't have to figure this out. If you try, you will drive yourself nuts. It sounds like you already know some things, and others will become clear over time.
Your wife is infatuated with a new lover. Plain and simple. It has nothing to do with you not being good enough, or her not loving you enough. She was missing something in her life and found it in this person, temporarily. The chances that this is a lasting stable relationship remains to be seen. Maybe she will be back.
I am sorry for you, and I am sorry for your child. You don't just leave your spouse, you leave your child too.
Don't question poly because of one bad experience. Do you stop driving a car because you have 1 accident?
Derbylicious
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Hey, that's my line!
I'm sorry that you're going through a breakup, Z. It sounds like you're well on your way to healing, though. There will be good days and bad days and it will take time to find your new normal.
Natja
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What the heck? Since when does ending a marriage mean you have also left your child?
BS
