The "How Are You Doing" Thread (redux)

Status
Not open for further replies.
Omigosh, omigosh, omigosh!

Found an old bf from the '80s on a social networking site. We're messaging back and forth, reminiscing. We were in our 20s and totally idiotic back then, but I have some fond memories. It's been both fun and tearful to trade recollections and piece it all together.

He just told me that when he left NY for California back then, he wanted me to ask him to stay but he thought I wasn't into him, so he left. Meanwhile my heart was breaking and I was so upset he was leaving. It's like one of those sad, tragically romantic movies where everyone on the audience is saying, "Just tell her! Just tell him!" and nothing gets said and then hearts get broken!
 
Last edited:
Experienced my first poly break up last weekend.
Was expecting to be really hurt and to feel really sad. What I actually feel is a whole lot of relief mixed with a little melancholy sadness.

Am also very happy to go away with Ren for the weekend. It's something we do so well together: travel, explore, find good places to eat, be in a strange environment together. I've been housesitting for a friend and am meeting my husband at the station tomorrow. Am kind of nervously excited about the trip.
 
I've just started a new job. So much stress with changing jobs and learning new stuff. The upside is that its close to home and more pay :D with less hours. Its nice to have 3 day weekends.

On the downside, my youngest daughter is about to drive me crazy. Its always something with her. She's supposed to be grown and on her own, but I wonder if that will ever be. I just discovered a $400 dishnetwork bill in my name :mad: Ah the joys of grown children
 
I've wanted to be at Richard's house (a lot) more than usual this week since I received bad news about my Dad and his health this week. I feel nurtured and cared for when I'm at his house. I'm working here while he is at work. His ex wife and son live here too- upstairs. It's a big house and they have their own kitchen upstairs. But we do use the same laundry room and of course we run into each other coming and going. She asked me who does my roots, so I explained to her how I do them myself between visits to the hair dresser. We have basically the same hair color, so I'm sure it will be fine for her. Richard is stopping on the way home to pick up steaks!
 
Busy as $%#^^.. its all I got. Career booming, life busy, getting ready for future with a bunch of little ariakas's.. trying to figure out how to navigate time for work, poly, life (hiking, biking and fucking) while making sure everyone is cared for...

Next 3 months,I travel A LOT!!! Its gonna be quite a trip, heck even making it down to Pittsburgh for the first time. Some more expansion into the US, maybe I can catch a steelers game..

I need more hours in a day, week, month, year.
 
nycindie said:
Feeling like I'm heading in the right direction, but wishing it was easier for me to stand up for myself more when confronted by powerfully assertive people who come across as experts in their field. I get too intimidated! But all in all, everything's good right now.
Click to expand...

:) don't be afraid to be wrong.. then they have no power. Then when you are right it feels even better.
 
Got a 86% in algebra and 94% in public speaking. It has been a very intense 8 weeks. I welcome this 3 week break. One of my coworkers owns a gay bar so Im going out tonight to see him in a camp drag show.
 
Congrats Inyourendo on your scores. You desirve a nice break after that one.:D

Not much change here since the last time I posted :( doing alot of beating myself up lately. Trying to live a "normal" life at home, and all the while I have J on my mind CONSTANTLY!!! (I know this is not healthy)

I have talked to hubby more about how I am feeling,,, but still have not had a conversation about it. I can talk all I want, but if he is not responding or adding anything, I feel like I should just tell the dog. At least she will give me something like a wag of her tail or a kiss on the hand, that is a response after all.

Spilled my guts to J in a letter. No response there either, so it looks like its all a bunch of one way coversations, no input from either side.
 
Just finished first week off orientation at new job. Got back with reoccuring girlfriend. Hanging out at the bare ass b&b with the wife who was (oddly enough) fully clothed with her boyfriend at the time of my arrival. Looking forward to a weekend of reading and hammocking.
 
Started marriage counseling to (hopefully) help on feeling more connected, communicating better. She asked some good questions in the second session; actually got into working rather than spending a long time on introductions and getting to know our situation. Feels like a good fit for me at least. DH is not really the therapy type; evaluating a good fit is harder wrt him.

Z - boyfriend? - should be back from a 2 week vacation. We split up a bit before he left, then reconsidered. I don't really know what to call him; that's a big part of the challenge for me in dealing with him. The ambiguity and inconsistency are wearing. I was pretty relaxed while he was away, despite missing him, because I pretty much knew what to expect. Trying to keep the anxiety from creeping up again now, but it is lurking....

Long talk yesterday with a former classmate in a field I'm considering switching into. Exploring it makes me feel good.
 
Am still learning the new job, I never knew there was so much too it. But I really like it and I'm getting settled in. I love that its close to home and I know everybody that comes in. I love that Bob stops and visits throughout the day and that makes the day go better. I think this has been a good job change and that I'm gonna be happy with it.

I still worry about my youngest daughter. Her BF is out of jail and back with her. IDK why she thinks there is going to be any changes with him. Its been 5 years and there's been no improvement that I can see. She could do so much better I just wish she could see it.
 
Doing good. Back in Kodiak (kids in tow) to see Maca for 2 weeks before school starts up hard and heavy.

Went camping over the weekend. Our baby caught her first halibut (on a salmon line, impressive start).

GG is taking care of the pets and the house (he's stuck working). Mailing him off a love letter today. :)
 
It's been a weird stressful few weeks, but I'm getting settled in from our sudden move. Found out I can get home from Brian's house in 22 minutes as opposed to the old 30 :D Got to have dinner last night with his partner who I only met very briefly over two years ago and had a blast. Spontaneously signed up Tuesday go to Poly Camp with Greg where I'll have a chance to spend time around his other two partners, Wednesday Brian spontaneously signed up for Poly Camp after I said I was going.. have to arrange for the two of them to meet each other now so the first time they meet isn't at a 4 day camping event... Looks like August will be just as crazy for me as July, ack.
 
Didn't sleep well last night. Sometimes its hard to turn off the thoughts of the day. Had a good date night with Bob last night and I kept going over a lot of our conversation. Am tired today though after only sleeping a few hours.

Work is going well, am still learning. There is a lot more to this job than meets the eye especially when you are having to deal with someone elses mess.
 
Status
Not open for further replies.
Back
Top