Introducing ourselves anew: Hi!

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AlanAnna

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We're Alan and Anna. Together 17 years, polyamorous for 14. We have closed FMF triads -- polyfidelity. Alan's straight, Anna's bi. We're in our late 30s.

We live in Costa Mesa, in southern California. And we plan on one day relocating to New England, probably western Massachusetts.

We've had some longer term relationships but none that lasted. Looking for that one woman for us, for a lifetime relationship. (The term "unicorn" is so very stale and reductionist.)

We joined here many years ago but haven't really been present the last two years. But now we're back and plan to be more involved.

We've maintained a poly blog since 2007 -- www.theordinaryextraordinary.com -- which we originally built as a supplement to the poly book we wrote . . . which is free to anyone who wants it. Half-memoir, half-sociological overview.

We're members of the Polyamory Leadership Network. Alan's a writer. Anna's an artist -- but her day job's in marketing. Thankfully, not the soul-crushing type of marketing.

Any questions, feel free to ask. And hello (again) to all of you lovely people!

:) :) :)
 
Greetings Alan and Anna,
Nice to make your acquaintance.

What drew you to a renewed amount of activity here on Polyamory.com? and how did western Massachusetts come to be of interest to you?

It sounds like you've had quite a bit of experience and I think others will benefit from that. I hope you find the special someone that you have been looking for.

Sincerely,
Kevin T.
 
Cheers, Kevin!

We wanted to get more involved here -- and in other polyamory ways, in real life and online -- to do our part in getting polyamory more seen and understood by more people and help it gain simple acceptance. We want to share our experience but more importantly to help others and build community. In short, it's motivated by love. :)

In answer to your question, K -- we've always loved western Mass and the Berkshires and are getting to a point, with our southern California life, of wanting something less hectic, with fewer people and vehicles, and more grass and trees, and more mindful people. So we want to move there to set down roots and build something lasting. :)

Thanks for the kind words, Kevin. They're much appreciated.

And cheers to everyone! Say hi if you'd like. We'd like it.

:) A&A
 
Hi and welcome back! I would just like to point out to you that our Guidelines do state that we prefer each person in a poly tangle or couple to have their own username and post separately. If you insist on both of you posting under one login ID, we ask that you always identify which one of you is writing the post. Sure, you can say that each of you speaks for the other, but you are two individuals and it helps the community to delineate who is speaking. Thanks.
 
Hi nycindie! We don't recall that when we joined -- 4 years ago -- the guideline on having separate usernames for separate individuals was there. Our apologies if it was.

As with our blog, we truly do write together. Alan will be doing the majority of the typing, it's true, but as with our blog, we pass the ideas by the other -- and incorporate any feedback -- before writing. But if you need to assume it's just one of us, assume it's Alan typing. (And that his middle name is Anna instead of Richard.) :)

Thanks for the welcome! We look forward to hearing more from you over time.

Cheers! :)
 
Hey A&A,

Sounds like you'll enjoy the environment in Massachusetts. As for raising awareness about polyamory, we can always use more help in that area so I for one appreciate your participation here.

Regards,
Kevin T.
 
Thanks, Kevin! As for the Berkshires/western Mass ... it seems like there would be a thriving poly community there. Liberal, guileless, thoughtful people -- and lots of liberal arts colleges nearby. We hope that there is....and need to investigate that a bit more.

And thanks for the lovely words, K. If our participation here can help at all, we're glad. :)

Cheers!
 
I'd be interested in hearing how it is in the Berkshires and Western Mass if/when you make your move there. I know Boston has a reputation for being poly-friendly.
 
kdt26417 said:
I'd be interested in hearing how it is in the Berkshires and Western Mass if/when you make your move there. I know Boston has a reputation for being poly-friendly.
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It may be a little while until we finally make the move.....but we'll certainly let you know what's what down the line. :) We expect good stuff.
 
kdt26417 said:
Sounds good to me. :cool:
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Cheers, sir!

Also wondering . . . are there many southern California people here on the site? (Feel free to say howdy!)

We know some poly people are kicking around SoCal -- and some are active in poly activism -- but they mostly don't seem to be here. And, truth be told, SoCal has fewer poly people than the rest of the country may believe. So we're curious to here of what sort of presence they have here.

Cheers, everyone!
Alan & Anna

:)
 
Interesting question ... not sure ...

I have been told that San Diego and Los Angeles are fairly poly-friendly cities ... Don't know if that's true or not.

I have a thread with a list of (purportedly) poly-friendly cities, you might find the (list and the) thread interesting.

You could try the Dating & Friendships subforum and see if some people might raise their hands when asked if they live in your area. I don't know any off the top of my head but my memory powers are quite feeble. :eek:
 
kdt26417 said:
I have been told that San Diego and Los Angeles are fairly poly-friendly cities ... Don't know if that's true or not.
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They're definitely poly-friendly. Just not as full of poly people as some might think. :) And San Diego is very conservative/Republican.....so that's not great.
 
Ah yes. Turns out San Diego gets mixed reviews (poly-wise). It's in "list limbo" at the moment ...
 
Thanks again, Kevin, for being so welcoming. And we hope to get to know more of the goodhearted poly people here . . . we'd love that.

Cheers, everyone!
~Alan and Anna

:)
 
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