Hello from Atlanta

[CuriousRon]

51 year old male from Atlanta, Georgia. I describe myself as monoish. (mono-ish) That means I prefer a "mono like" relationship with a primary partner with dynamics very similar to what's found in most mono relationships. I wish to be happy and satisfied with that one relationship but still be free to act on somebody else's interest in me if it happens and my partner will be free to do likewise. I feel capable of loving more then one person in a romantic sense and I believe I'm capable of allowing my partner to have that freedom as well.

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings CuriousRon,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

So, mostly monogamous, but open to polyamorous possibilities. That's cool. I hope you'll enjoy your time on our site here, and don't hesitate to post any questions or whatnot. Good to have you with us.

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[CuriousRon]

Greetings CuriousRon,
So, mostly monogamous, but open to polyamorous possibilities. That's cool. I hope you'll enjoy your time on our site here, and don't hesitate to post any questions or whatnot. Good to have you with us.

Hmmm, am I a mono like poly person or a poly like mono person? Well, I think I'm naturally poly in attitude. I've come to this conclusion in hindsite based on some previous experiences in my life such as not feeling jealousy (at least not much) at the thought of previous partners possibly being with other people. The turning point was when I was dating a woman last summer who had a big problem with me saying that I still loved all the previous women I was involved with. Even though I was exclusive with her at the time she felt that by me saying that I wasn't completely over them. Apparently that's a common belief among serial monogamists. You're suppose to all but forget that your exes exist. I've never thought that way. If you want me to be exclusive with you then I may agree to that and I won't get involved with anybody else without first discussing with you the possibility of changing the parameters of our relationship but don't tell me who I can and can't love. The whole idea of "emotional infidelity" is weapons grade bullshit.

Thanks for the welcome. I've been participating in two facebook groups about polyamory so I am somewhat familiar with some of the issues and lingo. (unicorns, triads, and OPPs oh my, unicorns triads and OPPs oh my)

 

[kdt26417]

LOL, yes the Poly Forest is a scary place.

Yeah I have a whole list of women who I have been in love with and/or attracted to in the past, and to be honest, they're all still on the list. Even though I'm sure I'll never run into any of them in the future.

Contrary to popular belief, people can be in love with multiple persons at the same time.

Earnestly,
Kevin T.