Inyourendo
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Because everyone in the house is treating her like shit, like she's the baf guy because she's not okay with the situation as it is and is tired of her boundaries not being respected
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Because everyone in the house is treating her like shit, like she's the baf guy because she's not okay with the situation as it is and is tired of her boundaries not being respected
Candiedlove
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Because the husband refused to take a break from his girlfriend?
I don't think it's as much a matter of his refusing to take a break as to how he and the girlfriend *responded* to the request.
Going by the posts here, they've been increasingly disrespectful of her. They've resorted to name-calling and to questioning her mental health because she isn't okay with what's happening. He is refusing to validate or acknowledge her perception that his actions and words are causing problems in their marriage, and is instead telling her that he isn't doing anything wrong, that she's the only one with a problem. He's blaming her for all the negatives instead of taking responsibility for his own actions, and he's actively supporting his girlfriend in also blaming Kittykate for all the problems.
Judging from Kittykate's most recent post, it also sounds like the girlfriend and *her* husband are on the rocks because of the relationship between girlfriend and Kittykate's husband, and this is also being blamed on Kittykate.
If it was just a matter of Kittykate saying "I want you to take a break from her while we get settled" and him saying "No, I'd rather not do that," it wouldn't be quite as severe a situation. She would still have the right to feel hurt and angry about his refusal, but he does have the right to refuse a request like that.
But that isn't all it is. Obviously we only have Kittykate's side of things to go by, but from what she's saying, there is emotional abuse and gaslighting going on, with her as the target and her husband and his girlfriend as the perpetrators, and with them telling her they're doing nothing wrong, this is all her fault. *That's* why they're the "bad guys."
And there's also the additional layer of the fact that she's pregnant with her husband's child... If nothing else, this level of stress, distrust, and fear is not healthy for the pregnancy.
Going by the posts here, they've been increasingly disrespectful of her. They've resorted to name-calling and to questioning her mental health because she isn't okay with what's happening. He is refusing to validate or acknowledge her perception that his actions and words are causing problems in their marriage, and is instead telling her that he isn't doing anything wrong, that she's the only one with a problem. He's blaming her for all the negatives instead of taking responsibility for his own actions, and he's actively supporting his girlfriend in also blaming Kittykate for all the problems.
Judging from Kittykate's most recent post, it also sounds like the girlfriend and *her* husband are on the rocks because of the relationship between girlfriend and Kittykate's husband, and this is also being blamed on Kittykate.
If it was just a matter of Kittykate saying "I want you to take a break from her while we get settled" and him saying "No, I'd rather not do that," it wouldn't be quite as severe a situation. She would still have the right to feel hurt and angry about his refusal, but he does have the right to refuse a request like that.
But that isn't all it is. Obviously we only have Kittykate's side of things to go by, but from what she's saying, there is emotional abuse and gaslighting going on, with her as the target and her husband and his girlfriend as the perpetrators, and with them telling her they're doing nothing wrong, this is all her fault. *That's* why they're the "bad guys."
And there's also the additional layer of the fact that she's pregnant with her husband's child... If nothing else, this level of stress, distrust, and fear is not healthy for the pregnancy.
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And I suppose the biggest question for me is how much is Kittykate's husband helping her with an already-born baby to take care of and another one on the way. He seems to have pressured Kittykate into moving across the country and into this other couple's house specifically so he could hook up with this other woman. Doesn't sound like a man who's tending to his responsibilities as a father.
And I suppose the biggest question for me is how much is Kittykate's husband helping her with an already-born baby to take care of and another one on the way. He seems to have pressured Kittykate into moving across the country and into this other couple's house specifically so he could hook up with this other woman. Doesn't sound like a man who's tending to his responsibilities as a father.