Norwegianpoly
New member
Hi,
I know that families with more than two adults have gotten it easier than before. At least in my country, it is not illegal to cohabitat with more than one, or have two adresses (although one must be your official one), or buy a house or raise children together.
My concern is for the international families. It is not always easy to marry and close the distance, but it certainly adds another stone to the pile when there is no way you can marry. My husband and I have even seriously discused getting legally divorced so I am marry my boyfriend, but I fear that it would have no effect as it would easily be discovered that I live with my husband and that my new marriage would be deemed proforma and nulled. Still, it is not completely off the table, but only as the very last resort and having discussed it with someone with legal education.
Our other options so far have been: him coming here as a student, him coming here to work, me going there to work, family reunion visa if he fathered my child and we proved that my husband is not the father.
I know there is a growing movement on "love without borders" and visa/marriage/family reunion visas, but so far I have not seen any poly people involved in the debate. Are there people out there who are affected by the international scepticism of moving for love? How do you handle it?
I know that families with more than two adults have gotten it easier than before. At least in my country, it is not illegal to cohabitat with more than one, or have two adresses (although one must be your official one), or buy a house or raise children together.
My concern is for the international families. It is not always easy to marry and close the distance, but it certainly adds another stone to the pile when there is no way you can marry. My husband and I have even seriously discused getting legally divorced so I am marry my boyfriend, but I fear that it would have no effect as it would easily be discovered that I live with my husband and that my new marriage would be deemed proforma and nulled. Still, it is not completely off the table, but only as the very last resort and having discussed it with someone with legal education.
Our other options so far have been: him coming here as a student, him coming here to work, me going there to work, family reunion visa if he fathered my child and we proved that my husband is not the father.
I know there is a growing movement on "love without borders" and visa/marriage/family reunion visas, but so far I have not seen any poly people involved in the debate. Are there people out there who are affected by the international scepticism of moving for love? How do you handle it?