Can poly relationships be healthy?

[Spork]

Yah -- okay, I know it sounds trite, like a smart-aleck tossoff, but in all my years it's totally true: Sex is easy, friendship is hard.

Really, finding a sexual relationship that lasts awhile isn't so difficult in a Big Picture sense. But where do I go to find someone with whom I can establish a longterm kinship, a meeting of the minds, someone whom I rightly trust deeply & who trusts me?

I know a thousand people; a couple hundred seem to consider me a friend. In my own heart & mind, I have maybe a dozen friends

I use the word "friend" very liberally, but yeah I agree. THIS that you describe here...that's definitely the hard bit.

 

[Cakefog]

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door/201311/does-polyamory-work
I think this link will help.

 

[Ravenscroft]

I think this link will help.

Hmm... no, not so much. A good answer for a different question, & actually seems to open up more questions.

For instance, depending on how "works" is defined, it'd be easy to say that emotionally unhealthy (even destructive) relationships can work just fine.