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SweetDreams2015

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Hello everyone. I'm 40 years old, from the USA, married (together 17 years) with four kids. I have a bf in the UK who has a neat polycule of his own over there. My husband has a gf about an hour away. Never know exactly what to write for these things. Anything else you would like to know, feel free to ask.
 
Hi SweetDreams2015 - Just a quick note to welcome you to the Forum - will look forward to reading your posts. Best of luck on your continuing poly journey! Al
 
Welcome to the forums! :)

You sound well established. Look forward to hearing more about your situation and your advice on the forums.

-Shaya
 
Thanks guys. It's been an interesting ride for sure through poly. Lots of ups and downs and hard earned lessons along the way. Well worth it though.
 
I should add to my introduction that I identify as pansexual, RA, horribly independent, outspoken and only actually live with my husband between a 1/4-1/2 of the year. He works away from home half of every month then his time off is divided as he sees fit between me, his gf and time with the kids. His gf is in the process of moving into the house he and I share. We're adding another bedroom/art studio that will be my personal space. Right now my budget only allows visits to the U.K. 3-4 times a year. Once my personal room is done I will have my bf come here to the states when his schedule allows.
 
That sounds pretty amazing, SweetDreams! What I wouldn't give for a bedroom of my own. :D What's your relationship with your husband's gf like? Does her moving in mean you'd end up seeing more of her than your husband, since he's away so much?
 
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That sounds pretty amazing, SweetDreams! What I wouldn't give for a bedroom of my own. :D What's your relationship with your husband's gf like? Does her moving in mean you'd end up seeing more of her than your husband, since he's away so much?
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I just met her for the first time last week. She's very sweet. We have talked through text and Facebook messenger for a while now. I held off meeting her until they had a well established relationship. I will end up seeing her more than he does. It will be an adjustment for me and I have some of my own territorial issues to handle. I think it can all be worked out though. It's things like towels folded a certain way, dishes washed in a certain order, day time routines I get fidgety about having interrupted. That's why I requested my own personal space so I can retreat when I need to handle something that is mine alone to figure out.
 
SweetDreams2015 said:
It will be an adjustment for me and I have some of my own territorial issues to handle. I think it can all be worked out though. It's things like towels folded a certain way, dishes washed in a certain order, day time routines I get fidgety about having interrupted. That's why I requested my own personal space so I can retreat when I need to handle something that is mine alone to figure out.
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Oh, I hear that! When a friend of mine moved into my house (at my invitation) a few months ago, I really struggled over sharing space in the refrigerator/pantry. It's funny how specific these territorial moments can be, isn't it? I hope that you find, as I did, that emotional-management skills picked up from poly relating can apply. (In my own case, I dug down into the reasons for my discomfort, and discovered that my attachment to having a well-stocked pantry revolves around my fierce dedication to feeding the family and the fact that my chronic health condition limits me to once-a-week shopping expeditions. Once I realized that my housemate could be a resource for picking up mid-week groceries as well as a limit on my storage space, I calmed right down! ;) )
 
Greetings SweetDreams2015,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Sounds like you have been poly for awhile, and are working things out. Poly can be difficult, but it can also be very worth it. I'm glad you could join us, hope you'll enjoy your stay.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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