Advice needed, ISO a wife#2 LTR

Lezlizmyamarie

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So hi everyone!

I’m gonna go by Liz here, I’m gonna try and explain what I’m looking for a bit and see if you guys can help me along the way. Any advice is always appreciated. I’m new to all this.

A little about us: So I am 26, Husband is 35, from the USA, SC. I’ve been talking to him about this on and off for a while now, he’s agreed to it many times, but we haven’t actually acted on it yet. We are considered an attractive couple, generally successful in life, currently remodeling home #2. I’m an animal lover, he’s a car junkie. I’m pretty awkward but I’m an acceptable way, he’s a hard worker and owns his own business, works a lot but it provides a comfortable lifestyle. I work as a hobby. It’s a very good life. He has a very Christian conservative family, so if I found someone it’d be hidden as something else in public eyes but be normal at home.

What I want: I want to find a “sister wife” “wife #2” that shares the same values, a Christian woman around the same age, generally attractive, that can be like my “live in bestie” in the public eye, and at home but be our wife at home, I’m okay with sex with all of us, or just f/f if our husband watches or just m/f. Honestly it’d be whatever she wanted, I want to be completely together. Just like a natural relationship. I want open communication, talk about expectations and wants needs desires, all of that. I’d want her to move in, be faithful to our trio, we are honestly an easygoing couple, we don’t argue but we do disagree, but we talk through it, I’d like the same with her. She could work for him as a secretary, it’s an easy life really.

I don’t know of any dating sites/forums for this kind of experience/expectations. So if anyone knows of any please let me know. Thanks to everyone for taking the time to read all of this.

Kisses, Liz.
 
Greetings Liz,
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I don't know if you have tried OKCupid, it's probably your best option as it is mostly tolerant of poly, but is still a well-known/popular site. Others you can try ...

Hopefully some of that helps.
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Well, let's begin with the basics, then.
I’ve been talking to him about this on and off for a while now

I’m okay with sex with all of us, or just f/f if our husband watches or just m/f. Honestly it’d be whatever she wanted, I want to be completely together. Just like a natural relationship.
What you are thusfar entirely unclear about is what EXACTLY it is that YOU -- as in, like, an individual human being -- want.

Like, do YOU want to have a lover?

Or, are you hoping for someone who will take the pressure off you of solely satisfying your husband's sexual desires?

FWIW, there's little that's "natural" about monogamy, less so of "monogamy+1."
it’d be hidden as something else in public eyes but be normal at home.

a “sister wife” “wife #2” that shares the same values, a Christian woman around the same age, generally attractive, that can be like my “live in bestie” in the public eye, and at home but ... be our wife at home,

I’d want her to move in, be faithful to our trio

She could work for him as a secretary, it’s an easy life really.
Rethink.

If you are at all honest about this, then draw up -- like right now -- a legal contract that would make it equal. Like, if/when it doesn't work out, she will receive a "divorce settlement" of 1/3 your joint equity (properties, business, savings, retirement accounts, etc.). That's pretty normal, right?
 
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