Recent content by BlueGray

He did not adopt City Boy and has no "legal" rights to him. City Boy is now 23 and my ex and I have been legally divorced for four years. City Boy still has medical coverage through the ex's insurance and will until he is 26.

Sorry it's taken me so long to get back here. It's been crazy at work the last month and I've been busy with school. Fox isn't rushing into anything. He was texting/chatting with a couple of people but it just seemed to fizzle out and he didn't pursue it any farther than that. I feel so bad...

In my situation City Boy was three when I married my ex-husband. When my ex started receiving SSI benefits City Boy received benefits along with Country Girl and Youngest. When we divorced 17 years later visitation and health insurance where included in our divorce agreement for City Boy and our...

(((hugs))) as someone who was very confused on being attracted women I totally understand. I do not currently have a relationship with a women but if I did that relationship would be completely separate from what I have with my husband and my boyfriend. What I find so very sexually attractive...

Withdrawal is a slippery slope. Once you start where does that end? You still have a young child at home. Fox and I had young children about the same age as your youngest when we started down that slippery slope. It caused them a lot of emotional damage and by the time we realized that the...

If we had no children who were involved we probably would not have ended that relationship when we did. It was solely our concern for the children involved that we ended that relationship. As adults we could understand the addiction but the children were so young all were under 15-years-old that...

This times 1,0000. I truly developed a friendship with her that was separate from her relationship from Fox, or so I thought. The decision for her to not be a part of our V was devastating for me. I not only lost a friend but a true sister-wife. I miss that relationship so much! We did not have...

He needs to seek professional help to manage his "rage." Anger management counseling would be helpful. No matter what is causing his "rage" it is solely HIS responsibility and while you can support him you cannot solve this issue for him. There is absolutely NO reason for him to be using you as...

That times 1,000

As much as I hate that backstabbing, lying, evil ex-sister wife, I miss her. I miss having a friend who understands, who’s there to offer support through all the crap that I face and deal with on a daily bases. Who can say “I understand” and really does because she’s been there, walked it...

Fox and I openly discussed opening our marriage, he was completely against it and at the time we were not married. I later found out that he had sexual contact with his ex-wife and it broke a part of me. We ended up working things out and she is now the PsychoX, who broke both of our hearts. I...

I just wanted to give an update on Fox's daughter. She is in a regular room now and waiting on a bed in a facility. She has decided that her attempt is my fault and Fox's even though she has been living with my mom for the last 9 months. She has decided to move in with her biological mother. We...

For some that may bet true but for me it is not. I barely remember anything from my childhood and what I can remember is horrible. I didn't escape the verbal and physical abuse until I moved out when I was 18 and even then the verbal abuse still lingers in the back of my mind. I'm complicated...

I first want to thank everyone for taking the time to offer support, reaffirm what I know in my head but at times forget, and to give me food for thought. I meet with a crisis counselor and although not my regular counselor we had a good session. The guys have made it very clear that hiding...

I am really struggling Here is the current situation: I have several mental health diagnoses. I take medication, see a doc and am part of several support groups. I have been stable for the last year and what I am currently doing works for me, at least until a crisis happens. I am in a polyamous...