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BlueGray

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As much as I hate that backstabbing, lying, evil ex-sister wife, I miss her.

I miss having a friend who understands, who’s there to offer support through all the crap that I face and deal with on a daily bases. Who can say “I understand” and really does because she’s been there, walked it, lived it and loves the same people that I do. I miss being able to go down the hall to her room and have a late night gossip/bitch party about Fox or the kids.

I miss the camping trips, the country bars, and the out to eat dinners, the talks, the late night game playing, helping each other with school, and all of the other hundred things we used to do every day.

I miss having someone to complain to, conspire with and to be there for all of the good and bad. I miss having someone to poke Fox with because it’s so much more fun with two and I am always faster so she gets the worst end of it, not me lol

As much as I miss all of that I’m terrified of having it again because I know how badly it sucks when it ends!

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This all is starting to come up because Fox is starting to date. Fox's ex and I had such a close relationship and I adored having that connection. I'm afraid of being hurt again and the unknown because I don't know what it is like to have a distance between who Fox is dating and me :(
 
BlueGray said:
As much as I hate that backstabbing, lying, evil ex-sister wife, I miss her.

I miss having a friend who understands, who’s there to offer support through all the crap that I face and deal with on a daily bases. Who can say “I understand” and really does because she’s been there, walked it, lived it and loves the same people that I do. I miss being able to go down the hall to her room and have a late night gossip/bitch party about Fox or the kids.

I miss the camping trips, the country bars, and the out to eat dinners, the talks, the late night game playing, helping each other with school, and all of the other hundred things we used to do every day.

I miss having someone to complain to, conspire with and to be there for all of the good and bad. I miss having someone to poke Fox with...

As much as I miss all of that I’m terrified of having it again because I know how badly it sucks when it ends!
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From reading your other posts, it seems you and your husband rid yourself of that "sister wife," whom you nicknamed PsychoB, 3 years ago. And she had a drug addiction, that was the reason you got her out of your lives.

You're still carrying a torch for her, despite the ugliness. She was a cool person with an illness/demon, which led her to drugs. That is very sad. Some people I have known with addiction problems are the most creative loving people, on their good days. I wish you continued healing.

This all is starting to come up because Fox is starting to date. Fox's ex and I had such a close relationship and I adored having that connection. I'm afraid of being hurt again and the unknown because I don't know what it is like to have a distance between who Fox is dating and me :(
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It is normal to fear the unknown. Unfortunately the only way to get over it is face your fear and do it anyway! I hope there is less drama with any new lovers he is lucky enough to find. Try not to rush things into cohabiting. It's recommended to live separately and date, for at least a year, until the NRE wears off and the true natures come through.
 
Magdlyn said:
From reading your other posts, it seems you and your husband rid yourself of that "sister wife," whom you nicknamed PsychoB, 3 years ago. And she had a drug addiction, that was the reason you got her out of your lives.

You're still carrying a torch for her, despite the ugliness. She was a cool person with an illness/demon, which led her to drugs. That is very sad. Some people I have known with addiction problems are the most creative loving people, on their good days. I wish you continued healing.

It is normal to fear the unknown. Unfortunately the only way to get over it is face your fear and do it anyway! I hope there is less drama with any new lovers he is lucky enough to find. Try not to rush things into cohabiting. It's recommended to live separately and date, for at least a year, until the NRE wears off and the true natures come through.
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This times 1,0000. I truly developed a friendship with her that was separate from her relationship from Fox, or so I thought. The decision for her to not be a part of our V was devastating for me. I not only lost a friend but a true sister-wife. I miss that relationship so much! We did not have a sexual relationship and I truly thought that our friendship extended past her relationship with Fox. To find out that it didn't was so hurtful[/I]

I think what I fear the most is getting attached to someone who will betray me again. I don't want to go into to many details but it was much more than just her addictions that ended our V relationship.
 
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Magdlyn said:
From reading your other posts, it seems you and your husband rid yourself of that "sister wife," whom you nicknamed PsychoB, 3 years ago. And she had a drug addiction, that was the reason you got her out of your lives.
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If we had no children who were involved we probably would not have ended that relationship when we did. It was solely our concern for the children involved that we ended that relationship. As adults we could understand the addiction but the children were so young all were under 15-years-old that prompted ending that relationship.
 
I am truly sorry for your loss.

There is no guarantee you will find another sister wife from one of your husband's current dating partners. Life is about change. Prepare yourself for anything. You might get a close friend out of a metamour, you might get a distant acquaintance. One never knows.

Is your husband specifically looking for a woman interested in a serious relationship hopefully leading to cohabitating on your farm?
 
Hi BlueGray,

It's crazy how we can have such opposite feelings for the same person, isn't it? I'm sorry you are aching inside for the relationship you thought you had with your ex-sister-wife.

I hope Fox'll take it easy/slow with this new dating thing. Is he just dating one person for now?

Hang in there.
Sincerely,
Kevin T.
 
Sorry it's taken me so long to get back here. It's been crazy at work the last month and I've been busy with school.

Fox isn't rushing into anything. He was texting/chatting with a couple of people but it just seemed to fizzle out and he didn't pursue it any farther than that.

I feel so bad because I am so busy with work, school the kids and everything else that happens in life.

I guess I'm just missing having that other person who could be there for him like we used to have.

It's the season ... guess I am just feeling nostalgic :(
 
I don't blame you.
 
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