Recent content by bubblesshine

Thanks GG! You are correct. My mind is made up. The next week will be hard for me. Mainly to get through the family activities we have planned. And yes "I wish" as I know I have no control of his decisions, actions, behavior etc. I know when I do lay it all out and ask him to go to the court...

I want my spouse to take responsibility for his choices. Thanks for your reply. I want to be vindicated and I want to just be happy. Either way I'm only going to find that by giving a boot to his ass. It's taken me some weeks to get to this point. I've already finished up the legal separation...

And he lies again Guess he's just building a bigger and bigger whole. I've been wondering about his getting "fired" and how that same day he decides to work on us. Just spoke to his ex-supervisor. He walked out. Spouse told me he worked to the end of his shift and the next day supervisor...

He's been like that with his parental duties for years. He denies it. His girlfriend thinks he's the world's best dad ever. I realize part of me wants a three month separation and part of me wants to try...to work on being positive (well I'm doing that with or without him) in our marriage. But...

:D I figured you knew.

I completely get what you are going through. I'm dealing with some familiar behaviors from my husband. These two articles are great and should be read as about "you" not him: http://www.collective-evolution.com/2013/10/16/15-things-we-need-to-stop-doing/ and...

Feel free to pm me to learn more about my former user id here. I think a few of you know who I am. But if you don't, I don't mind sharing that information. I just don't want spouse, his girlfriend, her husband and their children to now this is my new user id.

Thanks bluebird and you are here! Knowing the math (and he does as well) has helped for me to no longer be afraid of the unknown. I'm getting use to being alone. That's another fear I've dealt with over the years and with poly in our lives I've learned I can be "okay" alone. It's like this...

Part II I'll be honest, it drives me nuts/crazy/makes me feel like crap that when he's with me, he's constantly texting her. And after 3 or 4 calls each day, calls to tell her goodnight, every night. I rarely (even in the months before this shit storm) ever received a goodnight text and never...

I do realize providing background facts would be very helpful on this post. First I would like for any of you reading to know I have been a forum user for over a year. But the people in my poly life have used my blog and posts here against me. I need to write, I need to post but no longer as who...

I enjoyed your blog so far but you've eluded to "results" with no clue for a reader to understand what happened.

Long before poly came into my marriage my partner was already checking out on the parent responsibilities. My 16 year old feels and tells me repeatedly her father doesn't care about her, he's always on his phone or being lazy. Now she's adding in always with his girlfriend. It sucks her heart is...

Hi all. I've joined today to eventually get some advice on my immediate situation. I haven't quite figured out all my questions. In the last year I've been doubting my ability to be poly. But I know I have loved more than one, I had so much joy at my partner's new relationship. And when I found...