Recent content by datapirate

❤️ Dismissive Avoidant. I found that this article most accurately describes my attachment style It has! Traditional OCD? Or Pure-OCD? I have very few physical compulsions, but find that I can't stop going down the rabbit hole on others. Possibly how I ended up here to begin with. Do you...

Hi! I'm DP, and I'm a Cisgender Heterosexual 34m (almost 35) (he/him) and I came here seeking advice on the poly relationships corner. I'm an engineer, and I travel all over the country building and fixing equipment. I've been happily married for 9 years (together 14), with 2 kids. My wife is...

That's pretty much what I'm figuring out. That's an interesting idea. Thank you, I really like that. I'm really not "insecure" about her "liking someone more" or "falling in love and running away" or anything of that nature. It's mostly just scary. Kind of like when you want to watch something...

Thanks for these questions, I'm definitely going to reference them as time goes on. Thanks for the reply, The "Mono-Machine" is remarkably powerful. I'll check out the book too, thanks!

(question at the bottom) So today, my wife Star and Ashley had their first date. Nothing significant to report according to my wife. Just met each other for the first time, seemed to vibe together ok, and she hopes it continues further. She likes Ashley, but isn't sure she's what Ashley is...

Just here and reddit. Haha, in my dreams. Again, this is more about the idea of minimizing potential conflict/worry than it is about actually handling potential conflict/worry. I can promise that even if the hottest "bi babe" was flirting that it's a situation that would just be addressed...

That's dead on. Totally understood. When I said that I first met her while she was "still in the relationship", I misspoke. She was still involved in two relationships. Also, most of what I've seen has been responses from triads or more, so my apologies for not getting the terminology right...

Thanks so much for taking the time to respond. I certainly will. I assume that these feelings will subside over time after adjustment if everything continues in a healthy fashion. I think that after feeling like I was mentally prepared, it was just an unexpected brutal awakening with reality vs...

Where to start. I'm not really sure what my goal is in posting, aside from maybe insight and to find out if anyone can relate. I've done a lot of research, and I can't really seem to find any similar stories or situations. I (34m) and my wife S (34f) have been together for almost 14 years...