Recent content by DavidR

Thanks Albert, Kdt and Galagirl for your incredibly thoughtful reactions. I feel grateful for the existence of this forum, as it has offered me wisdom and insights during some rough spots.

My wife has recently asked to open up the relationship and started seeing someone ( if you want the whole story, it's in the '23 years monogamy' thread elsewhere on the forum ). I'm getting better at dealing with the anxiety, and enjoying the newfound bond we have. Looking for some measure of...

I have thought about that, but when I don't know wether it has happened or not, I just start assuming it has occured all the time. That's even worse. But then that's my thoughts getting away from me, and maybe there's something that can be done about that.

Thank you Magdlyn and Galagirl, for your thoughtful and very insightful responses. It is healing to experience recognition. I have printed out your replies and will go over them a few more times in the future. I'll quote similar ideas you posted together and reply to them. "It seems like Roger...

Yes, for a couple just getting into polyamory. I believe there are other situations that have more chance of success, although it's impossible to know that, of course.

I believe they are. I think the most important realisation though is that I am no longer afraid to defend my needs.

I'm not sure I understand exactly what your question is. I don't see the problem of increased frequency as inherent to this particular person. I realise that this is a process that will happen at some point either way. It's just that I think my unmet needs will be triggered more often, the more...

Hi, My wife and I have been in a monogamous relationship for 23 years. About a year and a half ago, I was diagnosed with cancer. It had already spread to my liver, and the prognosis was pretty bleak. My wife and I had to come to terms with the fact that I could die soon, leaving her with our...