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i'm bringing this back. FOOD

Update is that D and M talked about their most recent fight, or rather M talked and D didn't do any talking. I told him that worries me but I understand its his relationship to navigate. I also encouraged professional counseling and told him that I support him no matter what (if it means closing...

Absolutely thank you so much

This article was amazing. Thank you. I also agree with maybe being limited support, not all of it.

Hi everyone, I am in a situation where my partner, Dave, lives with and is married to Mia. Mia dates Tom, and has gotten serious with him over the past year. (During that same time frame, Dave has gotten closer to me.) Until recently, I didn't realize how iffy Dave's relationship with Mia has...

This is useful to be mindful of. I think I tend to go into little space when I am hurting, but also when I am just having fun. Generally, when I hurt and I don't understand why, I kind of regress. But usually, within an hour or so, I am able to be back to my normal self and articulate my...

I don't but multiple people on here mentioned it, so I will look into joining! thank you!

Thank you all so much for the well-thought-out responses. Sorry it's taken me a little while to get back on here. I am def going to be reading through them again and ponder all sides. I really appreciate all of the support I get on here. Thank you!

I think that's true. Understanding and solidifying where my limitations are, instead of having my boundaries transgressed, and then hurting in the name of submission, or lack of self-confidence, or whatever I may be, is what I really need to be careful of.

Wow, thank you. I have never been on Fetlife, so I really appreciate the resources. Also, "just because we are poly doesn't mean that we're open for business, all day, all the time, and that we need to somehow be cool that our partners will take up with anyone else they are interested in". THIS...

Thanks so much. I am working to learn and remember that my emotions do not dictate my worth, importance, or what I deserve, that the emotions are there to teach me things and give me insight into my wants, needs, fears, etc. It's quite a process though, that doesn't happen overnight. I have been...

100% true. I have a lot of reframing, rewiring and self love to build back up again

Absolutely. I am seeing a therapist, and my partner has been pretty damn understanding about certain triggers. I think I do need probably more help than my therapist can give, though. English isn't her first language so sometimes there's a slight communication issue. I feel I do not get as much...

Hi, I got it. thank you please feel free to delete.

I'd use it for sure