Recent content by grant37

I just wanted to refresh this thread a little with some updates. First, let me say this was all really helpful for me hear and process and lots of good ideas that have and likely will help in the future. THANK YOU ALL! So we met with a third for a threesome, sexual only. It was a...

A gentleman doesn't tell tails... But I felt something I haven't in a very long time.

Thanks for the confidence booster red

So I'm naturally a take charge kinda guy at work and socially, but naturally pretty laid back really. Never done any kind of BDSM. It's been requested I learn... What's the best sources. YT and Google sucked. TELL ME NOW! That's me, "trying", see I know nothing -Grant

My wife handed me her phone, she had been texting the 🦄. And then she said, "flirt with her." That blew my mind!!!

I like this advice, thanks. That is basically my plan, but having a date and goals makes it objective. Grr HR would love me I'd rather answer privately... Sorry I'm fine with taking about me, but if rather not talk about her here

The clash!

This was a great response and I took some time to mentally parse it. Harumph, too true It's a long list, but it starts with, stop cheating, and it ends with, tell me you're staying very often. I know she's okay with swinging, and only every 6mo or so, we'll start there. I'm not sure if...

I have. I think she likes the idea of sharing sexually, but sharing any intimacies sets off a flood of emotions for her. She's scared I'll leave her for someone else, which no matter how much I work on our "earned secure attachment" doesn't seem to change. She's just petrified I'll leave her...

You have a lot of reading/audio books ahead of you. I think others will post references. I've done a lot myself, I think I'm emotionally and mentally there, but my partner really can't see it. Good luck!

I've started hearing this term... "Date your own species" It sounds to me like Pam may be learning this first hand.

Thank you! I really have all these thoughts, dreams, ideas "marinating". Perfect word there.

I've been reading PolySecure and that really changed where my head was at. I can "be" non-monogamous (or anything) but choose to stay in a monogamous relationship. I've been talking with my wife and things are subtly shifting, but I think it just rocks her foundation to think I could find...

I'm new here and new to the entire thing to be honest. I live in Kansas City and I'm married to a beautiful wonderful woman and we're on our 25th year together. She's very mono-aligned, but I have been struggling throughout our entire marriage with fidelity in general. I decided years ago...