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Thank you, GalaGirl. I have been thinking a lot about expanding my friend circle. I have several very close friends and feel that I could benefit from having more close friendships, especially now. D has many friendships with different people. I actually just mentioned to D that I thought that...

I’m realizing that my support system is non existent. D and I both have super busy lives and I’m feeling uncomfortable with our lack of connection. I think all of the things that you mention are factors. I agree. I’m struggling to name what it is that I need. What I want. I’m not sure that I...

Yes. My kids have always held my heart. Having lost my first child really affected my prioritization in my relationships. My children have been my world and D took a backseat… not ok. I do struggle with my insecurities. And, I think that my intentions going into an open lifestyle were not clear...

Thank you for your acknowledgment and your understanding. You are correct, our losses have had a compounding effect on both of us and the circumstances surrounding them have been complicated and difficult to comprehend as well. Though, in many ways we have navigated traumatic loss and...

Thank you. He was an amazing young man. I miss him every day. I think that is partly true. I lost my spirit, a light went out inside of me. I did continue dating for awhile following his death, even met new people, but eventually I realized that my head and my heart weren’t in it.

Thank you for sharing a piece of your backstory. How incredibly difficult and painful for you. Your experience parallels my story, except that in my case I was the one causing the hurt, and our marriage didn’t end as a result. Wow! I’m so sorry. Your thoughts regarding “playing as a couple”...

Thank you for sharing a piece of your backstory. How incredibly difficult and painful for you. Your experience parallels my story, except that in my case I was the one causing the hurt, and our marriage didn’t end as a result. Wow! I’m so sorry. Your thoughts regarding “playing as a couple”...

Thank you for sharing about your experience. It is helpful to hear from people who are in similar situations. The longer that I sit with this, I realize how hasty I was in my decision process when my husband and I decided to open our marriage. I also realize that though I got to a place of...

Hi Kevin, Nice to hear from you again. Yes. That is correct. I would like for both my husband and I to be monogamous and being that that is not an option I’m trying to be ok with it. Thank you for your support. I’ll check out Golden Nuggets.

Hi Kevin, Thank you for your response. My preference would be that D and I focus on our relationship together without others involved, so yes… going back to monogamy for both of us would be my ideal. D though, and not surprisingly, is very invested in his other relationships. I understand that...

My actual preference would be to shut our open marriage down, both sides, but that is not an option so I’m finally getting around to doing the hard work that I should have been doing all along. I am primarily monogamous. I liked the experience of practicing non-monogamy, but I don’t think that...

Thank you for your response. Especially nice that we are the same age too. Correct D is my husband. He’s a lovely lovely man and we are great partners to one another in most respects. I’ll give you some background into our history/situation. I have struggled with mild anxiety/depression of and...

Hi, I’m new here. I’m 68. My husband(68 also) and I have been married for nearly 40 years. Crazy! I know! We’ve been lucky to have enjoyed raising 3 wonderful sons, and we’ve also been crushed🖤by the loss of our oldest and younger boys. Needless to say, we’ve experienced our share of trauma and...

Hi, I’m new here. I’m 68. My husband(68 also) and I have been married for nearly 40 years. Crazy! I know! We’ve been lucky to have enjoyed raising 3 wonderful sons, and we’ve also been crushed🖤by the loss of our oldest and younger boys. Needless to say, we’ve experienced our share of trauma and...