Recent content by Iamher

I literally got that expensive skylight calendar for Christmas lol. I love it, I put all appointments and outtings on there and hubbys adhd has slowly been remembering we have it lol. With our kids so small it’s hard to just be spontaneous, and I’m not against him being spontaneous. But his...

I guess the problem is he works from home and can make his own schedule, but I don’t know what she does but I assume that her work schedule changes enough that they are seeing each other different times every time. I will try bringing it up at our next check in, at least to give one day for me a...

Yes I’m fine with him being spontaneous about what they do, I honestly have no idea what they do, that’s their relationship. I don’t even ask where he will be. I just want to know a time frame of when he will be gone so that I know how long I am solo parenting.

I have read (mainly on Reddit) about how much planning and scheduling are a key part of polyamory. But how normal is it? Do you all plan and schedule, or are you more spontaneous? Hubby is a very spontaneous person. Since having kids I have found I really enjoy scheduling and planning, knowing...

I looked up LLL and as I suspected there is not one in my city. The closest is 40 minutes away, I may still check it out, so thank you. But I am working on being assertive, but I can only change my own actions, so it’s mostly just going to be me taking more time for myself.

Thank you for the name compliment. I really couldn’t think of anything and just put that haha. Honestly, I really don’t care about the sex. I am satisfied, he is not. I am really just unsatisfied with the lack of other intimacy and my lack of time without children calling out “MOM” 3 million...

That’s great! I’m hoping to find something, but unfortunately I moved to a city that is pretty conservative and doesn’t have really anything going on. I’ll have to look at things happening in the city I used to live in (45 minutes away). I know they have groups and things. My baby is 4 months so...

I am currently exclusively breastfeeding our youngest. And where I live it’s so cold so no walks until it warms up. I’m really trying to get out of my comfort zone because I’ve never really been alone and it’s uncomfortable for me to be alone. But honestly I’ve been wanting to be alone more...

I think I’m in too deep to close off my marriage. But I think I will just date myself because he doesn’t seem to understand that I want kid free time outside of the house. I can’t really get time in the house alone though, I tried and it’s not relaxing… It definitely feels unfair though.

I have read the most skipped step and am working on being alone. I have just last week gone on a solo date to the movies, which honestly is a big deal because I’ve never been alone anywhere other than shopping. I think I’m in too deep to pull back, but it seems that you really understand how I...

My mom just recently retired so I may start pushing for two nights a month and maybe full weekends in the summer. No I don’t have any adult time, other than maybe a date night. I don’t have but one friend and she works and when she is free she typically has her kid (shared custody) so it was...

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Unfortunately this is exactly how it feels. That he just wanted to marry me and have kids with me because he knew I would take care of them. I know he loves me and we have had lots of great times together, but he will never admit it out loud, I think he enjoys me being home. That’s not the...

I am a married stay at home mom. My husband and I have been together for 7 years now. He introduced me to polyamory and I agreed but didn’t know too much about it or how much work I would have to put in. Long story/ years later I am now doing the work but I am struggling with my feelings. I...

Hello, My name is Lauren. I am 30, living in Michigan (USA). I am a wife and mother. I am on a journey of self discovery, which means learning more about the relationship type I have agreed to. I’ve been polyamorous for the past 7 years, but have only truly started doing the work about 2 years...