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6 years as a Polyamorous Woman- it's working for me!!! I have hit the 6 year mark of living a polyamorous lifestyle. The meaning of this has changed a lot during the last 6 years and again I find myself re-defining this term and how it is being expressed in my life. I just turned 59 years old...

6 years as a Polyamorous Woman- it's working for me!!! I have hit the 6 year mark of living a polyamorous lifestyle. The meaning of this has changed a lot during the last 6 years and again I find myself re-defining this term and how it is being expressed in my life. I just turned 59 years old...

Checking in with Great News!!! It's been a year since I posted last and l and I wanted to share some positive things about the lifestyle for those of you who are still not sure if it will work for you or not. Richard and I have remained in the lifestyle now for 5 1/2 years. The main...

Trust and Honesty The ability to trust oneself and be honest with oneself is the key to healthy relationships. If things aren't exactly going our way, it is easy to blame that on someone else. But looking towards someone else for our sense of well-being is counter productive. Each...

Just wanted to check in with the poly community and share what is going on in the Deep South!! I have been living an active polyamorous lifestyle for 4 ½ years. I still have (what I call) a primary male partner (Richard) and am seeing my lesbian ex-lover, Brenda again. We had seen each other...

Just go with it! I've been a member of this forum for 4 years and have gotten a lot of great feedback and guidance here. Welcome to the forum and you may get more feedback if you share a bit more!

When polyamory is working!!! Polyamory- my story after 4 years in the lifestyle. I am polyamorous for two main reasons. 1- monogamous relationships make me feel trapped. 2- I'm bisexual so monogamy doesn't work for me considering that when I have chosen a mono partner of one gender, the...

One of the things that Richard and I did when we entered the lifestyle was to create a bunch of boundaries- rules and guidelines that we put in place and were committed to them. Living a poly lifestyle was my idea and he had never considered it before had no experience whatsoever, so I slowed...

I prefer to sleep alone, for the most part. Richard and I sleep together one to two nights a week. Lee occasionally spends the night with me... about four times a year. I also sleep with a straight female friend of mine when she joins me at the beach, which is 3 to 4 nights a month. Although she...

Going on my 5th year as a poly female, it's cool to look back and realize that I have not questioned my poly nature once in these last 4 years. The decision to openly live an ethical non-monogamous lifestyle has been the right thing for me and I am growing and opening myself up to experience...

Thanks for letting us know what's going on! I have enjoyed following your posts and I was wondering how things were going! Please keep us updated as you move forward in your life together!

Oh- and also- for a bisexual woman who is looking for a female partner- it's hard to find one that doesn't come with a male counterpart unless you want to date a lesbian and there aren't many lesbians that want to date married women. So- my point is that a lot of people enter the lifestyle...

Welcome to the forum! One of the most compelling aspects of poly-for me- is the fact that it's totally outside of the cultural "norms" most of us were raised with.....and as a result- there aren't many role models, but they can be found! I am still a newbie (committed poly for 4 years) and...

Polyamory is totally working for us!!! So this is what the polyamourous lifestyle is all about! One of the things that is difficult for people to realize is that there is no one set way to do it. This is how we are doing it. Richard has three girlfriends besides me. One of them is his ex...

It could be as simple as something like the fact that maybe you are an introvert and therefore more comfortable with a solitary spiritual path and she is an extrovert who really likes to share her spirituality with others.