Recent content by IsidoreNabi

The correct answer The correct answer: "None of your f***ing business." (I'm a displaced New Yorker.)

How many New Yorkers does it take to change a light bulb?

My advice is to share your feelings with your partner. If you can't talk about your feelings and your desires, then you might have bigger problems than your sex life, and, as others have already pointed out, if you have problems in your current relationship, trying to have more relationships...

Who ever said that was his motivation? Are you projecting your own motives on this guy or just trying to be unwelcoming to newcomers?

Note my use of the adverb, "almost." Where in the world am I supposed to have implied that? It really pisses me off when people start deliberately misinterpreting what I say, and I have much better things to do than teach remedial reading here, so I'm just going to take a break from this...

Hence the pronoun, "I." Yes, I believe I wrote that. Are you trying to piss me off, or are you just a world-class jerk?

I didn't say it was. If I said, "the capital of Nebraska is Lincoln," would you feel compelled to inform me that Nebraska is a state, not a capital? Remember? I'm one of them.

Which is why I'll never go to a swing club or party. I've had friends offer to go with me, but when it came right down to it, I just didn't feel welcome. My friend was welcome with or without me, and they'd even tolerate me if we went together, but they clearly didn't want me there, so I didn't go.

And it works perfectly, all the time. :roll eyes: The tragedy of monogamy is that people make commitments not to have feelings that they simply can't control, so when they, almost inevitably, experience these feelings, they don't know what to do. They can't talk to their spouse; their friends...

That's what makes them fantasies, and just because yours might not be practical as the basis for establishing a viable household or community, that doesn't mean you shouldn't look for some way to give them life. They are in some way an expression of your desires, and if you can fulfill them...

Swinging, in my experience, involves some form of quid pro quo. For example, I am not welcome in a swing club or party unless I bring a female partner. I can't have sex with a female swinger unless her partner can have sex with my partner. I'm not comfortable with these arrangements, so I don't...

Her expectations might be unrealistic, but at least her temperament is well-suited to this sort of arrangement, and she really brings out the best in everyone whose lives she touches.

Dammit, now you're giving alienation a bad name. There's such a thing as not fitting in gracefully, y'know. You don't have to piss in the punchbowl and leave. Wait a sec. "Collarado" [sic]? Now I get it. Weed used to make me paranoid too. That's why I gave it up.

Truly? Really? I thought we could focus on whatever we choose, as long as we're honest about it. I'll admit that sex can be pretty wonderful in a serious, long-term relationship, but it's still way ahead of whatever's in second place just for it's own sake. It's, if memory serves, the best way...

Hi. Nice to meet you. :D