Recent content by Janye

I think that A2Poly gave you some great advise on the topic of safe sex practices. I think that it's perfectly reasonable to be expected to have been told that she was having unprotected sex with her partner. It's just respectful of someone else's right to play in a safe way, in my opinion...

Such a kind Lady Lady emailed me yesterday. She'd been lying low and trying to avoid all of the shit that the Man and I were throwing at each other, but apparently feels the need to try to mediate. Too late, but I can appreciate the gesture. She has always offered to be an outlet for me. She...

And I'm getting rid of that stupid (and incorrect) signature, too! Ah. Now, that feels and looks better, doesn't it?

This week, these past seven days, have been hell. The Man and I are no longer together. Contract terminated. Submission withdrawn. We got into a verbal disagreement that got way out of hand. I'll admit that I was rude and petty, and I'll even shoulder some of the blame--I had no clue why he...

That's my story and I fucking sticking to it. He can go fuck himself. This is pure, unbridled anger. An emotion that I really hadn't attached to him until now. It feels good. Anger feels manageable, and controllable. Nevermind the fact that it may not actually be--please keep your logic to...

Because I think it needs to be said The Man can go fuck himself.

Hi there, Honeybits! You and I seem to be in somewhat similar situations; I am also a mono with a (much) more experienced partner...except he is married. He introduced me to poly, and it's been a pretty steep curve. The first time that I felt jealousy for his other partner was not a good...

I'm having a skype date with Lady tonight to talk through/decompress our thoughts on the changes to our relationship, and to discuss what our relationship looks like moving forward--we're exploring the possibility of opening up a power play dynamic. I'm starting to get nervous!

Magdlyn already explained this, but Jesus is only recognized as a metaphysical being by the Christian faith. Which is so interesting. As people that have grown up in a culture where Jesus is almost synonymous with the dominant religion, its been my experience that many people forget that one of...

It was suggested by a friend of mine when I was trying to think of screen names for another poly site lol. It's a mix of the name that I go by and Kanye. That's a good thing for us--we were both very into rap music in school, initially for cultural reasons, but she ended up doing a lot of work...

Such an interesting question, as it implies that longevity, or the lack of it, can be measured by some barometer that might be different from a more conventional arrangement. I don't think that that's necessarily true, as a lot of folks have already said. I think that if there was a real...

If it's Facebook that you're referring to, just have him tell her to block you from her TL. If it's twitter, tell her to unfollow. Social media is ah-mazing, in that it let's up customize our feeds. There's no way in hell, that I'd agree to that (not sorry bout it). On a healthier note: It may...

Hello there! I just wanted to chime in because I remember those feelings, oh so well, and I feel your pain girl. Really, I do. I think that people have given you awesome advise on how to deal with the awkward situation of meeting his gf, if you truly don't want to. Keep it short and sweet, be...

It's September, Friends. *Cue Dramatic Music* That means that there are officially 25 more days until the LSAT. Which means that I woke up at 6:30am this morning to take a full practice test before I went into work. This will be my day to day reality for the next 25 days. Crazy? Possibly. But...

Wow. It's been exactly one week since that last post. So full of angst, that post. I've been trying (really, I have) to get back on here to update this--to really sit down and spend some time with the events of the past week, because a lot has happened. A whole lot. And I kind feel like I'm...