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    Ex wants me back

    I think y'all are not wrong. I think more space/time is needed. I am going to think on this and do some soul searching.
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    Ex wants me back

    This is true. This is why they felt they needed space I think. I think in this regard stepping back from each other is the right choice. Their rebound girlfriend, or more accurately, their relationship management/hinge skills in regards to their rebound girlfriend, was another major part of the...
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    Baby mama won't let partner see child post divorce, but ex wife and step mom can

    Lake went to court with Cali and got 50% custody of Ava. Lake and Alexa no longer speak or interact and Alexa sees Ava though Cali.
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    Ex wants me back

    My partner Lake dumped me two days ago. This morning they messaged asking to talk, saying they made the wrong choice. I am going to hear them out cause not knowing where they are at will be harder on me. Will update post-convo. We broke up because they said they needed space to be single and...
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    Baby mama won't let partner see child post divorce, but ex wife and step mom can

    Looks like Alexa will be supervising visits with Lake as that makes Cali more comfortable. So in some ways she is the price of Ava which is...a dynamic... I cannot control Alexa or Lake's choices here tho. So I'll just watch that play out from here and hope no one gets hurt.
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    Baby mama won't let partner see child post divorce, but ex wife and step mom can

    Yeah I think my anger with Alexa was a bit missplaced in some respects. Yeah, there is truth in that. I think you are right. It's a bit hard to do in practice tho. I find myself worrying about them and about Ava. Because I care about them and don't want them to get hurt, and unlike Lake, I...
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    Baby mama won't let partner see child post divorce, but ex wife and step mom can

    I think somewhere in between. She looked a house and didn't like it so it seems like it's not happening this minute anyhow. This is super real. I think I need to step back and let Lake manage their shit.
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    Baby mama won't let partner see child post divorce, but ex wife and step mom can

    Thank you for clarifying. This got me thinking about the situation a bit differently. I think this is definitely some of what is going on here as due to the rocky history Alexa would take lead on managing the relationship with Cali.
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    Baby mama won't let partner see child post divorce, but ex wife and step mom can

    Okay so your judgement here is primarily based on gender roles and stereotypes then. I cannot speak for how bio-mom's household operates but I do have a fair bit of insight into Lake and Alexa's. Both work, and both are queer. I think there is truth in parts of your comment. I think Alexa took...
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    Baby mama won't let partner see child post divorce, but ex wife and step mom can

    She certaintly thinks so. Although I know personally that I disagree with her judgement on this. But I'd be interested what stands out to you in this thread that makes you trust her character judgement? Is there perhaps something I am not seeing due to my personal bias?
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    Baby mama won't let partner see child post divorce, but ex wife and step mom can

    Oh so apparently now Cali wants to move 45 minutes away, invest everything she has in a few acers of land, and start a weed farm! - something she has no experience with - and which would completely pull Ava away from her life and support system here... 🤦‍♂️ 🤞 The lawyer calls back soon. Cause I...
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    Baby mama won't let partner see child post divorce, but ex wife and step mom can

    Given the family dynamics and financial situation at play the only other caregivers in the picture would be Lakes parents and Alexa's parents (who Alexa now lives with). So were Alexa to push back on Cali's offer, Lake would be involved. I expect this behavior of Cali given her history. I am...
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    Baby mama won't let partner see child post divorce, but ex wife and step mom can

    Thank you for your reply Sept 2020 the divorce was asked for and Ava's time with Alexa and Lake was taken away. They tried to make it work for another month and agreed to split in October. Ava was informed in November. The divorce was finalized in December. Lake got the house in the divorce so...
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    Baby mama won't let partner see child post divorce, but ex wife and step mom can

    So I am in a messy situation and I am not sure what to do anymore. The relationships are polyamorous but that's mostly just tangentially relevant in all this. The cast; - Lake (32nb) - Me (26m), partner to Lake for 3 years - Alexa - Ex Wife & Step Mom (28f), partner to Lake for 9 years up until...
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    Polyamory survey

    I agree with the anti-queer bias, it was definitely writen from a het/cis perspective. As well as a distinctive focus on heigheracy. To be fair tho it just asks about the lenght of the longest of your current commited relationships not which is more commited.
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