Recent content by kdt26417

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    That was unexpected...

    It sounds like you are doing the right things so far. Polyamory can be scary, but you can get used to it a little at a time, as you inch into it. Keep us posted!
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    Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V

    4:37 p.m., Sunday the 7th This site's porn spam problem has been solved. The spams have been deleted, the spammers have been banned. A few people have been made moderators ... so I am now technically a moderator. I don't know what I'm doing, I just know how to fix any spam problems that arise...
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    Poly coming-out to myself while in a mono relationship

    Hello DragonFruitHunter, When I first heard of polyamory and decided it was for me, I was in a stage where I was rebelling against everything. I was born and raised a Latter-day Saint (Mormon), and it had just been a few years since I had quit the church. I was going through a difficult time...
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    Hi all. Im newbie.

    Greetings mayamiles, Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc. I'm really glad to have you here. I hope you'll enjoy your stay. If you have any questions, just let us know. Sincerely, Kevin T., "official greeter" :) Notes: There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets...
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    Easier said than done

    Hi MONELLA28, Here's all the jealousy links I have: What If I Get Jealous? Unmasking the Green-Eyed Monster "First Aid" for Jealousy Jealousy, Envy, Insecurity, etc. Understanding jealousy How do you achieve compersion? Jealousy and Insecurity The Theory of Jealousy Management The Practice of...
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    Sex drive and LDR during a pandemic

    I'm crossing my fingers too.
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    Problem solved, thank the gods.

    Problem solved, thank the gods.
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    Sex drive and LDR during a pandemic

    The Covid crisis certainly complicates things, especially with an LDR like with Aus. I think it was President Biden who said that vaccines would be available to everyone by the end of May ... something to that effect. I am hopeful that things will start returning to normal by the end of this...
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    Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V

    12:56 a.m., Saturday the 6th My emotional state has improved considerably, I am sleeping much better, and I'm no longer on SB's shit list. I don't know how I got triggered, I'm just glad the ordeal is mostly done and over. Today (well technically yesterday), SB took me to have my blood drawn...
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    Need Help! New Poly!

    Hello Wanderlust11, I take it that the wife of the other couple -- your best friend -- has told you that she would consent to you having sex with her husband ... and that your husband has told you that he would *not* consent to that. Am I reading that correctly? If so, then my next question...
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    Easier said than done

    Hello MONELLA28, Here is a thread that may help you: How do you achieve compersion? If you want, I can post other links on jealousy. Let me know if that would be helpful. Here's an article that may help you: The Most Skipped Step When Opening a Relationship. It is the forum's go-to link, if...
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    mono/poly relationship

    Hi Kniqo, Unless your husband magically changes his mind about polyamory, I think you have no choice but to be monogamous. I hear you say you have no desire to divorce. This then means that you are stuck doing whatever he consents to. Of course, you can keep talking to him about poly, hoping...
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    Unicorn maybe?

    Plus people don't always feel the same from one day to the next, she might feel more toward you one day, then more toward him the next day. As things are in the early days, she might be feeling a bit nervous herself about whether this will last, and whether you'll both be there for her. Give it...
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    Unicorn maybe?

    Hopefully the hot and cold is just the ebb and flow of a normal relationship. Keep checking in with her from time to time, to make sure she's still feeling good about things, and that her needs are being met. It does sound like things are going well for the most part.
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    Update: They broke up

    Hi WonderWoman81, I would suggest one of two courses of action. One of which is, do nothing. Yes, they broke up because of something you said (or maybe that was just their excuse), but it was still their choice, you didn't force them to do it. Let them take the responsibility for the...