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Are you dating separately, or only together?

Would the woman you are seeking be able to have other relationships of her own? Or would your relationship structure need to be a closed triad? If she is poly, and in your age range, she would likely have her own relationship or relationships already. If she doesn't click with both you and...

It sounds like living with this couple would be a disaster. You'd be miserable in their dynamic. Can you imagine a long-term committed future WITHOUT all three of you living together? As Tinwen suggested, maybe two residences near each other, where the husband can split his time with each of...

When you mentioned worrying that Emma would potentially feel emotionally hurt by threesome sex, my thought was, "No, Kaitlyn is the one who would be hurt by what could happen." The age difference is a big factor here. Kaitlyn is too young to be doing threesomes or threesome-adjacent activities...

Great to see you again! I joined back in 2010 when I was really struggling, and your voice here was very inspiring for my journey at the time.

It doesn't sound like it's worth going to this particular convention for you, at this time. Why put yourself through the stress? If Finch's invitation made you realize that you'd very much like to go to a kink convention [I assume that's what it is] with Finch, but that you'd rather not deal...

Hello Galaxy, I'm going to quote what you wrote here: trying to stop myself from thinking that if I lose her, I'm doomed to never find this again with someone else, but it's really difficult while my whole body craves her so much. It feels as if the whole universe would collapse if I'm not hers...

Hi Kathrin, I think it's great that you're worrying about this because it means you're consciously trying to handle things correctly with two relationships and learning to be the "hinge" of a relationship V. We hear from so many people who are the established partner and feel neglected (or...

Because someone is just posting their sex fantasy.

No.

Just wanted to say, OP, that the story about you being so neglected on your birthday struck a chord with me. It sounds so painful. I'm sorry you're experiencing this.

I am also often touch-averse and deeply value my own space, private time, and one-on-one time with partners. I do parallel poly--I would NEVER want to hang out with a partner and their partner, much less see them cuddle. Living in the same house, even temporarily, would be a nightmare for me...

Honestly? I think a sign "poly may not be for you" is if someone only wants a poly scenario where they & their spouse date the same person. I don't mean that someone and their spouse shouldn't date the same person if all three people want that...and of course that kind of triad is very common...

Just caught up on your blog, Bluebird, and I'm very sorry to hear about your stroke. It sounds like you are doing well with recovering, though! Best wishes and good luck.

Thank you for answering my question. That is a lot for you to deal with, and I'm sorry you are going through it.