Recent content by Patrick

Mono again, feels like it evolved , not just waffled well we My wife and I are back to Mono status.. again. and while this could turn out over time to be more waffling tpwards our more lasting solid path , it feels like: the right evolution in us finding our way, feeling our way...

Reading your advice makes me feel better ! so yea... a nice gentle step wise plan to follow - at least in essence if not verbatim. not to go back and get all into the panicky waffling. (and i'm just thinking hypothetically or wondering - not in desperation - much calmer :) curious if any...

latest waffling I told my wife that there's nothing wrong with her wanting to be free... Nothing inherent about that that I think she should ever feel cruddy about. But I also told her that open marriage - as she and I tend to call it, would make her a dreamwoman sent from heaven to any guy...

Wow. all that extrapolated from what i never said.. What I think and want for the record: Harem: Ew!, no thanks! original wife doesn't have a new man living in her apartment: my wife's wishes - NOT MINE. Your twisted parody of my honest attempt at searching for happiness above might have...

Wife want me to find a new partner first My wife seems to want me to go find a new partner first . - which feels much like she doesn't she want to lose me, but is unable to give up the prospect of her seeing her ex once in a while for fun - is my interpretation of that - i'll ask that...

While the stuff I have told you about his conduct regarding my and me wife is true - and i in no way think it's ok...My wife is attracted to him, and as i've written already my wife has no intention of bringing him to our home - she herself is adamant about that... I also imagine that he...

Hi , NG SOunds like something that will evolve and the steps towards clarity and the steps are forward towards finding what you need to be fulfilled . I guess the distinction I see here is asking one to make you important vs telling her what you are looking for.. and what won't be...

I am am confused by that last post. i'm not up on the different emoticons, and don't have strong enough reading glasses... is it my present moment physical and emotional exhaustion speaking or is that a laughing face. sorry i'm hurting a lot... also why will you wait to see whether WH is satisfied?

sorry a few things i may or not have typed or got botched in formatting and using the quote function... my wife has made it clear she absolutely does not wish to bring any guys into the matrimonial home - is ok with the separate apts under same roof idea for me if i should meet a woman...

there is a lot of contect in the 2 previous long posts

so sorry about the cut and paste screw ups. 4 hours sleep

re her ex who was her first flame…. Well, she and him have my blessing to make each other happy… I don’t want to water a grudge towards him.. yet I have no interest or obligation to being his friend. Civil if the situation arises? - I have no major problem being in the same room – but living...

Is your wife open to that? When you say you need two things, does number 1 refer to your own need for yourself to love your kids, etc, or are you saying what you need from Hypothetical Gal is a woman who is going to love your kids, support the matrimonial home, etc? My guess is you mean you...

Is your wife open to that? When you say you need two things, does number 1 refer to your own need for yourself to love your kids, etc, or are you saying what you need from Hypothetical Gal is a woman who is going to love your kids, support the matrimonial home, etc? My guess is you mean you...

thanks for the tough questions i love you folks for sharing your perspectives and experience and diversity with me and readers. tough questions awesome! aggressive tone - i'm ok with.. some shit's important - thanks for those questions. but i also appreciate being defended. But the great...