Recent content by Photonsun

Good point Kevin, Dema and I have our family and have been together for a while, we forget having date nights! It is not the solution to the issue but it will help us reconnect on a regular basis and that is important. Thanks for the suggestion, being in the middle I have to trust my own...

thanks that's very true. Dema is certainly feeling not confident, hasn't been dating for many years and had expectations that it would be easier than that. I also think that when he shifts his mindset, the energy will be different. Can't imagine me rejecting Gill over his rejection. As you...

The behavior of some people behind the safety of a screen is appalling, what a lack of respect! Yes, while I think his thinking was maybe not that extreme, it felt like he was entitled. I also think that he is enamored with the novelty of the situation, jumping in straight into thinking all...

He’s not been successful with dating so far. He’s on dating sites but not been beyond a match, if he can even get a match. He’s going out a bit more often but this is a really slow process. No doubt it’s tough to see the wife with a second relationship building nicely and not having any chance...

Actually my long term partner and husband (Dema) has developed a crush on my other partner (Gill, who I have been with for nearly a year). After some reflection, Gill stated she was not ready to explore that at the moment. Both keep on friendly terms. Gill sometimes comes to our house for a...

But can't the same be said about a partnered woman? She also has existing commitments and potential clash of schedule. I don't see how a partnered man is different.

I like how you worded that. "It is his responsibility to make the effort, and when it is not successful it is not my fault." It is a good reminder that ultimately I'm not responsible for his actions.

Yes, that is something we can consider. We both have looked at poly meetups but nothing interesting came up, which is weird because we live in a capital. I want to have a look at this again. Going the more traditional way of meeting outside for activities is a good one and I'll suggest that he...

Emotions come and go. They don't define the person. How can another partner be a distraction? Another partner means (self) growth. He wants that growth, and I'll be happy for him when he gets to experience it. It might even be possible that the moment he starts working on his feelings, his...

I’d like him to work on himself to accept that this is a temporary feeling and not share his bitterness (if that’s the right descriptor) with me, or not so often, at least. It impacts my self confidence and I am starting to feel slightly guilty. I know that is also a temporary feeling and...

Hello, For context, we opened our relationship over a year ago. We're not in a rush or anything, and taking things slowly so we can learn at our own pace. While I had 2 one-off dates and a long distance relationship, my husband has had no success. I suspect there are two reasons: it’s more...

Hi Magdlyn, Evie and Kevin Thank you for your answers, I found them helpful and fed my reflection. The email is a good advice, in fact, we both love old fashioned mails, so that's what I've sent :)

I am in a long term relationship with my partner (M) and we have kids. I am also in a relationship (over 8 months) with someone (F) who has a similar family setting. With our kids being so young, we sometimes need to spend more time / focus more on them, until we can resume our usual texting. We...

Thanks Magdlyn, Yes I know it’s hard work :) meeting could be possible on a weekend, it’s a day trip. But for now, I think she mostly needs space to go through the logistics and form a plan regarding her kids education. But how much time is that going to take? Then the rest will flow through...

Thanks Kevin. Sounds like I will give her and myself a bit of space right now and contact her in a week or two to ask her when I can expect to hear from her and offer my help.