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I just told her exactly what you said verbatim. No response. I said did you hear me. She said yeah and just continued reading her book

Before we did poly everything in our sex life was stale. She seemed disconnected and blamed it on me saying I wasn’t sensual enough and she can’t teach me to be sexy. Skip ahead to her lying about having sex with other people to her finally admitting she wants a second relationship. This girl...

I asked her to stop doing it w her temp until I felt better about it. She said that it’s coming from my insecurities and there is no point in her stopping although she acknowledges what I’m feeling. Pretty much any compromise I try she sees me trying to control her and she wants freedom to be...

I was just curious when it comes to a primary or a secondary or whatever kind of relationship style are there certain sexual acts you prefer with a secondary over your primary and don’t want to do it with your primary or visa Versa? For example, My partner prefers “scissoring” with the...

Yeah that is all so true and very clear to me. I need to set these personal boundaries for her if it’s too much for me. I asked her just now and she says if it happens again she will have no problem taking it elsewhere so that’s good. I want to try to self learn before it happens again and...

You’re right that would be more of a rule. Sorry I’m still learning 😂

I think I was more thrown off the call in general. I mean it’s not like she was saying things to her to make me jealous on p It was all just small talk and asking what she was doing for the new year etc. just the fact that she took it and the call lasted for about 45 mins. I think if it happens...

I’m not saying I have no personal boundaries. And of course I wouldn’t do that. That’s a bit dramatic. I’m just talking about a phone call. It’s not like I would be ok with them having sex next to me. If something came up we would of course discuss it but we have been doing this for 6 months and...

I will be sure to keep you posted :)

Thank you for all of your replies everyone. Mainly we don’t have boundaries because there was lying in the past before we became poly and by having no bondaries there has been no lying at all and we are just open and communicating a lot better. We have of course agreements that no one comes to...

I just want us to be open with each other. We talked after and it was a really good discussion. We don’t really have boundaries. The more we have the more lies can happen and I don’t want that. Not saying they would but I don’t want to implement more rules. I want to learn from this and how I...

So my gf is talking on the phone with the girl she is seeing next to me in bed and she’s just laughing and she has that tone of voice. You know the tone you get with people you like. Almost a seductive tone. I just feel angry right now and I don’t know how to get rid of it. I don’t have anyone...

Dale wood silva Thank you for such a warm welcome everyone. :)

Thanks!! I’ll check it out!

Hey guys!! In Slc Utah area. Pretty new to the poly with me and my girlfriend. I’m a woman myself and sure am having trouble finding girls haha. Anyway, hope to find new ways to help shed light and help people open they’re minds a bit more. As soon as they find out I’m in a relationship they go...