Recent content by polyrhythmic

Hey there, Smalltown: First of all, I agree with what most people here are saying. You need to examine your reasons for wanting to go poly, and make sure your wife is really (really, REALLY) on board with it before you go any farther. Pressuring someone to accept poly is probably the best way...

Welcome to the forum, smalltown. I'm also from Austin; there's a pretty big poly community here that I'm just starting to dip my toes in. If you go on Meetup there are a few meetup groups that have monthly meetings, and there's also a Poly Cocktails event that meets every second Monday of the...

One of the hardest lessons I've learned so far (and that GalaGirl helped me with *hat tip*) is that I'm not responsible for my partner's feelings. I'm responsible for my OWN feelings. Your first sentence is on the nose: your upset feelings are indeed your problem (not that they're not...

I'm a 30 year old man, living in Texas right now. I'm bisexual, but I'd say I'm a 2 or 3 on the Kinsey scale; I'm more attracted to women than I am to men. The right guy can certainly get me hot under the collar, but I'm attracted to a wider variety of women. I'm a musician and fiction writer...

Welcome! I'm also very new to poly; my marriage has been officially open for about a month now. It's been a pretty thrilling ride so far. Nice to see someone else who is in a similar situation. This has been a good forum for me to learn and share my own experiences, so hopefully you'll enjoy it...

Every single poly relationship I have heard of, both online and from personal friends, that began with cheating and lies has ended terribly. Polyamory is not a fix for marital issues, particularly if one party enters into it unwillingly or is coerced into it for fear of losing the existing...

Is it possible to gold star a comment? Because this is great.

Calm (very, VERY calm) confidence describes my personal interactions just about perfectly, so I'm set. After stewing on this whole thing for a while, I think I've come to the conclusion that patience is the key thing. A and I are different; of course our approach to dating and meeting people is...

I'm a man, so I don't get very many unsolicited messages (judging from what I've read here and elsewhere, this is a good thing), but the ones that I do get are often gems. And by "gems" I mean "what is this I don't even." Check out this one I got yesterday: I have my dogs in one of my photos...

There's a lot to unpack in this post, and I'll leave most of that to others, but I just want to say that anyone who absolutely refuses to use condoms is probably not someone I would want to have anything to do with. That in particular shows a distinct lack of caring about the people this person...

Oh, an additional wrinkle that I forgot to mention: A and I got married very young (thanks Christian upbringing), in our early 20's. We were each others' first sexual partner (well, for PIV at least; I had had a couple of girlfriends before I met her). I think that's part of why this has been...

Thanks again for your insights, folks. I'm glad I stumbled upon a space with such supportive and emotionally-sensitive people. I agree with kdt and everyone else that I do need to work on myself. Focus on doing the things I like to do and finding like-minded people to do them with rather than...

I just want to chime in and encourage you to keep going down the path you're going on. It seems like you're doing a great job so far. Speaking as a husband who has had these very same fears, this is such a helpful, uplifting thing to say. A told me that very thing when I was having these...

Thanks for the kind responses, everyone. Yes, I do feel a good deal of support from her. We talk a lot about our issues and our feelings about what's going on. I let her know when I'm feeling left out or jealous (which is happening less and less often) and we look at ways to alleviate that...

Pardon the info dump, but here goes: I've been married for about six years, together with my wife--let's call her A--for about ten years. We recently opened up our marriage and are exploring polyamory. We're in something of an FWB situation with another couple that we met through a dating app...