Recent content by purplepeach72

NRE or just Selfish Dear Kevin, You're absolutely right about poly not turning Viking into a selfish person he is making that choice over and over again because he wants things his way. I have been trying very hard to explain to him why his decisions are so hurtful. He doesn't understand why...

Poly Hell Hey Chrissy, You're correct on all fronts. This is his first poly relationship and he is struggling mightily in this hinge position. I have not only read the article but have read her book "Love In Abundance". I know my husband has read the article. He doesn't see himself caught...

Assumptions and Issues Dear Chrissy and Kevin, Thank you both for responding. Chrissy, you're right I did make a lot of assumptions about why he wasn't willing/able to give me a small thing I needed. Unfortunately, even once he called there wasn't really a good explanation other than that he...

Bluebird, Yes I saw that after Kevin pointed it out. Sorry for the confusion. Happy Spring/Easter

Questions are good. Hey Kevin, Questions are good they get my brain unstuck from the less helpful things it gets mired in. I hope and expect to know more about how they expect their dyad to affect mine and the Viking's dyad as well as how much overlapping we're willing to try. How their...

Ahhh Yes I am sorry for the confusion. Dear Kevin, Your deduction about the V is correct. N=Viking, my husband the hinge. Viking is a nickname that I write about him as on another blog. N is the first initial of his name. LeeAnn (L, LA) = purplepeach72 and M=GF. M is the first initial of...

Confused? I'm in a V with my husband, Viking as the hinge between myself and his GF, M. How does that not match my signature line or the above post? Thanks, LA

Hey KD, Yes it is a V right now with me, Viking and GF. We will plan to all spend time together at the June visit. Thanks for sharing you dark time with me. I've always struggled with depression but this is very different for me. Like most things involving personal growth I suspect we just...

Poly Purgatory - Day 1 of 4 – Heaven or Hell Just get me there! It was a good day of gardening today. I deliberately took the entire day off from any and everything so I could sleep as long as I wanted and plant pretty spring bulbs all day. Now comes the nasty part of cleaning the house until...

Rebuilding Trust - 6 Weeks In Rebuilding Trust – 6 weeks in My first post here was about “How do you rebuild trust?”. We are working on it. The big “Reveal” for me was Feb 18. The GF’s “Reveal” happened about 2 weeks earlier than mine. I won’t go through the whole scenario again but the...

Chiming in I'm fairly new on this forum and came here with my own issues involving my relationship moving from primarily one of a swinging couple to both of us being poly. We are still working on this very difficult transition. I was poly before my husband and we read several books(including...

3 Years Later Here we are Post Valentine’s Day 2015 It has been 3 years since I wrote the blog post above on the sex site where I met my husband. Our relationship started in an open way with each of us free to enjoy sex with others. Of course we had rules and guidelines but we worked through...

Love on a Sex Site? Love On A Sex Site? Yes It’s Possible. Late November 2010 I was searching the matches on this wonderful sex site for new FWBs. Sgt. Sugar was about to ship out, I had finally gotten MM out of my bed for good and I wanted to have someone new to play with. I had been...

New love doesn't have to come between us Well I suppose it depends on how you read the relationship plan/contract. We're sending it to her to get her feedback and input so she will have a say. We don't think that new love has to come between us. Keeping our love epic doesn't mean we can't...

Relationship Plan/Contract Cont'd Part 3 Short Term Goals Cont’d We will exhaust all reasonable avenues to determine the cause of multiple miscarriages and pursue fertility treatments to have a baby. We have agreed to seek IVF/IUI from a reputable international clinic that specializes in...