Recent content by saturnascends

That’s good to know! The interface definitely seems less than desirable if you are using the free version. I didn’t know you could previously message. That would make a difference for sure. I made a match yesterday and we have a tentative date, so maybe it’s paid off already! Life sure is weird...

You know, Tinder is the place I’ve had the most matches too - so it can’t be the worst. I mean, have they stuck around? No. But It’s the app that’s yielded the most results for me so far. I caved in and bought a month of Ok Cupid last night. I’ll see if it pays off. Why do I feel like it won’t...

Hi! I’m new here too. I have found that often enough, when my husband is seeing someone, I’m not and vice versa! It’s not intentional, just the way it seems to work out. It’s hard to get used to at first and you can feel a little down when it’s not happening for you, but I’m sure you’ll have...

Ugh!!! That’s terrible (about the last guy you dated). It sounds like the guy I’ve been lamenting over but 100 times worse. What a disappointment. I’m sorry that happened to you. People really are just so weird. And WOW, that is so wild about the attempted suicide. How awful!! I’d venture to...

All fair points! And something to think about.

That’s a new way to think about it!! Thank you. I definitely identify with goth culture and some of the others listed in what you quoted. I suppose not all this looking around has to be done on poly/romantic-specific apps and sites.

That’s really interesting to me - that you’ve found the people who were most interested were the ones who ghosted you. Because that seems to be my case as well. Where is the logic?!? Haha. Also agree that I don’t always relate to my peers. In fact I think a lot of people in their 40s are boring...

Kevin, thank you for the welcome! I appreciate it and I am happy to be here. I took your advice on looking for a local polyamory group and found something for the NY area. Not sure if it’ll produce any results, but it can’t hurt to try! As for meeting people in real life, I’d love to try but...

Aw thanks! He and I are in this together, we just have different styles. We talk regularly about everything though, which definitely helps. I agree that the feedback on what (if anything) we’re doing wrong would be beneficial. What literally boggles my mind is how it often happens so suddenly...

Thanks for this insight. My husband also says I take things too personally, that it’s about them and not me. Which I’m trying to accept a little more. But, while the method of stopping communication with me might not be about me, the choice to stop talking to me almost definitely is personal no...

That’s really cool, I’m sure that’s helped a lot! If only everyone could do that. That being said, I’m still figuring things out for myself, can’t always expect other people to have it nailed down from the get go. Poly people definitely are in the minority on most of these apps. But I have it in...

Thank you both! Alluvion, it’s funny because you think I’d want to take a break after getting hurt, but in some weird way it makes me want to find a new person even faster that way I can get distracted from the hurt. Haha. I am still quite discerning though, and wouldn’t go for someone unless I...

Hi! I’m brand new here and just wanted to say I’m going through ghosting pain as we speak. So your post really resonates with me. 3 people have ghosted me in the past month. One of them got COVID and I literally thought he could have been dead. But seeing our chat on tinder disappear yesterday...

Hello everyone! My name is Kim. I am 41 years old and from NY. I’m married and have an 11 year old. I just found this board today because I think I could use a place to talk about my experiences and hopefully learn as I go. My husband and I have been married and were monogamous for almost...