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This was my take on the OP too. It's not about labels as such. It's not about poly as such. It's that he wants less commitment than the OP does. A difficult issue to bridge within any relationship structure.

The Breakfast Club <CLAIRE She's holding a handful of wallet photos of various girls.> CLAIRE Are these all your girlfriends? JOHN Some of them. CLAIRE What are the others? JOHN Some I consider girlfriends, some I just consider. CLAIRE Consider what? JOHN Consider whether or not I want to hang...

I'm going to get attacked from all sides on this one, but as someone who drew energy, sustenance and wisdom from this forum a decade ago... I have never used an online dating app and never will. I don't go out hunting new partners. When people come into my life, then I explore whether there is...

My 2c. Find out who you are before sharing with the family. If you are not going to have a sexual relationship in your life, that's fine; if you are going to have many at the same time that's fine too. No need to inform family until it impacts your relationship with them. For example, when two...

I'm 41. I've been in a committed relationship since I was 17. PIV is 3. Additional partners in other acts is 2. I, personally, think poly is about being open to emotional engagement, not shagging randomly (not that there is anything wrong with that, either). The latter view, I think, is a...

I think you should look after yourself first. Are you comfortable now having left the relationship? Is there enduring resentment? Do you still hold anger? etc. If so, my advice would be don't engage because it will be hard for you to separate your situation from your metamour's. Why did you...

Hi and welcome to the boards You sound like you're in the middle of a whirlwind. An abusive relationship, a fast marriage, a holiday romance. As a poly board, I guess my question is: do you want to be with both the men currently in your life? Certainly, there is nothing bad about loving more...

Leave Harry, marry Bob. Someone had to say it.

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5. I've been in two long term relationships since I was 17. Since going poly I've had three other people I've loved. I'm 40. Less than most single people aged 40. But, it's all about the intimacy for me, not the sex.

Hi Pubgirl and welcome to the forum! I've heard in your post that you are not happy with your wife's perspective and actions. I'm not sure how much you can do to control that, though. In terms of stuff you can control: What do you want out of the relationships? Are you getting it? And what can...

So, there is nothing at all wrong with being mono. You sound like a good person and a good boyfriend. There is nothing wrong with being poly, either. Some people can choose between the two, and maybe some people can't. If you can't or don't choose to be poly, in the sense of at least...

Umm... so, some history-- there was lava, then there was algae, and then there were humans. Among the humans, the only reason we have monogamous societies is that men worked it out among themselves, in different places and at different times, that collectively they would be better off if they...

Hi Katya What a beautiful post, and welcome to the forum. There's this wide gulf between physical intimacy and emotional intimacy. My experience at least is that sometimes those that crave physical intimacy do not also crave emotional intimacy. Two people can meet in a bar and have great sex...

No. You do not require the consent of former lovers to take new ones. (What would the world be like if that were true!) You did everything right. You were honest and let the chips fall where they fell. That takes great courage. I admire you. On the other hand, you are an easy target for his...