Recent content by Zencat

I love that. If I used my internal logic for my name I would Wind Dances or Floatsam.

, e hosted my partners parents this weekend. It was nice seeing them but communications with him were ridiculously strained throughout the weekend.

That is an interesting thought.

There is a Namika song Kule Katze that my partner likes and we have a running amusement with coming up with different cat themed names. I was injured last winter but before that I was very into yoga and ZenCat came from those two things Om Purr Om.

Do any of you live in situations where a hinge has partial ownership of two houses? If so I am curious about how you got to that point and how it is working?

By the way thanks for the nickname complement. There is a story associated with it related to the Namika song Koole Katze

Thanks. Her exact words to him recently were "I should be enough" I had hoped we would be friends, but my relationship is with him and he is a childhood friend, so walking away is hard. That said I worked long and hard to be OK on my own. Right now I am in a stage of drifting towards my status...

Thanks. That is slowly what I am coming to. Having to learn not to take on her story of me as my story of me and having to learn to set boundaries. For awhile I was splitting myself into partner and friend.

I am new here. I have been relationship ambiguous most of my life. I have loved both men a d women but am primarily attracted to men. I have had sexless intimate relationships and I have had intensely sexual relationships. I have found bliss in both. My default most of my life has been I...

Trying to rebuild trust of him. He says he loves me for better or worse but is still unsure. I want to know is that unsure between mono or poly with me there either way or is he thinking about staying in a mon poly relationship with his wife. Not sure what the point of rambling on here is. Not...

It worked. I fell for him. A year later I broke my long term rule and moved back to the states for him. He said he wasn’t sure whether he wanted poly or to be monogamous with me but he was in love with me and he wanted to see if marriage would work in the future. His wife thought he was sure he...

Around the same time an old friend had his marriage nearly collapse. Saved only by my friend trying having a girl friend. I recommended against me because I tend to push people who don’t play fair out of relationships. But also probably because I was beginning to feel like less complications...

Trying to figure out whether this relationship is worth it’s difficulties. I was happily living an adventurous life. Collecting way too many complications but not letting them consume my life. I got to a point where I realized that the complications were armor I didn’t need. I had gotten to a...

Poly curious in an imbalanced ploy relationship with an old friend whose wife cheated then called Poly. My partner has long stated he isn’t sure what he wants. Currently uneasy poly is our status quo and my meta is off the deep end paranoid and revisionist. Part of me wonders does ethical...