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So me and my nesting partner (Connie) moved in together a few months ago. Mostly the generic growing pains, but turns out we gave remarkably little thought to bringing dates over. We have our own rooms, but turns out we have totally different expectations about how dates would go down. How do...

Awesome! Me and my nesting partner are going to shelters looking for a couple cats now. I've been talking about getting a bonded pair, but might settle for two cats that can stand each other. Please keep us updated on the kitties :)

Me and my Primary (Connie if you're gonna look through post history) have signed a lease! This is kinda surreal for someone who got into poly while single. I've never lived with a partner before, and I was wondering ya'll had some insight that I might not find on google. I will say that we have...

Kyle is my longest and healthiest relationship to date; we've evolved from FWB, to best friends, and now 'life partners'. Moving in together is on the table, and we're unquestionable gonna be in each other's life until someone is dead. Kyle is a super private person, up until this year we had a...

My primary is in the middle of a name change, but that reminds me to look into the legal services I get through work. Thanks Vin!

What does yours look like? At what point do you factor in 'new' partners? If you don't have a younger generation, what does your Will look like? I'm in my mid-20s, and my right-wing kin getting a hold of my health care/finances is my worst fear. My current plan is to divide POA between my long...

I was thinking about this before I logged on. I have a relatively large group of poly friends whom all to KTP, but in my experience the only gossip that goes around was when someone broke up. The couple of times I broke up with a long term partner it was a god send to only have to tell one...

This one is less vent more curious about what ya'll think. Connie is my RA practicing primary partner, and she has a best friend whom I'll call Luna. Luna and Connie used to be partners, until Luna wanted to start seeing this mono guy. Connie and Luna deescalate to best friends; and from my...

Broad strokes yes. There was talk about deescalating the relationship at some point, but from the aspects of their dynamic I see (time/emotional investment) nothing has changed.

Another 70% vent 30% question. When given the option, I usually opt for meeting my metas, than deciding on my own judgment what kinda dynamic I want with this person. I've mentioned Heather and her exsented polycule before--they play a large part in Connie's life. I've been around Heather...

Hi, didn't live with mine, but was my other partner's concern for me that finally got me to end it. I'm open to talking about it if you have questions.

Connie has always practiced RA, I'm more Primary partner mined. We've hashed out stuff like: * Connie doesn't like commitment because she dreads breaking promises. * The only way we'd life together is if we had separate rooms. * We are not to talk about marriage (it wasn't about to each...

Oh I've had this situation mirrored a few times, but it was crappy person's other partner begging me to stay. As my friend pointed out, that's kinda shitty.

Not gonna lie, this is 90% vent. Dynamics Explained: I've broken up with Jim, lovely human, we're still friends. Connie has become my primary partner. She has a handful of comet people, and one somewhat closer partner I'll call Heather. Kyle is as stable as ever. Hope is being her comet self...

I've wanted and about been a secondary up until recently; done it for about four now. #1 was great until the meta vetoed--lots of flames ensued. #2 should have died long before it did. but him telling me his wife wasn't okay with us hanging out without her, when she asked me point blank to...

Do you have a therapist?

Ya'll got several good points, but it's clear I didn't give enough detail: Lunabunny: It's clear you've known a few Hopes in your life. Solid guess with the possible jealousy over split time, but I dealt with those feelings a few years ago; we've found our common ground, but for a lot of people...

I'm gonna call my oldest poly friend Hope. She is the textbook example of an RA practicing poly person; and as unconventional as our dynamic is we're very important people to each other. Hope is very much a comet; she has this huge personality, and when she's focused on you, you feel like a...

I've posted about Jim and Willow before, we're practicing parallel poly. It's odd for me, I usually do kitchen table style poly, and that's the format me and Jim were aiming for; but factors such as distance, Mary drama (gone now!) and mine and Willow's dynamic has lead to us being parallel...

No, I got the period from hell, and the next day realized this was just how my friend who miscarried described. For reasons I never got it medically confirmed but I'm sure that's what happened. I think it happened from lazy of hand stuff, and I'm pretty sure of whose it was. Don't remember who...