I had a date with OLD person. It went very well but I must admit I should have re-read his profile before I went.
We had a lovely lunch and then to a local bar for a drink. We hung out for about 3 hours and as the weather was horrendous I left before it got too dark. There was a little knee and arm touching
He is super cute and pretty buff. Yes, I have type these days.
We ended up chatting on the phone that same night and it turns out he is non-monogamous. It is on his profile. He has a couple of other partner people. He is a Dom and has spent time in the city BDSM clubs. We swapped a few pics of gear. Very interesting conversation. He very clearly said he is not looking for monogamy but might do a primary type relationship if it came up. He is recovering from a year of very intense medical treatment and is doing the whole life re-evaluation thing.
We talked STD testing and he said he goes regularly. I said I have my appointment set for a couple of weeks time. He said he absolutely "wraps it". Woo hoo. No weirdness but yes, he part of the "community" One more data point for the "Who Tests and Who Does Not" chart.
My therapist is fine with me having non-monogamous relationships but I need to be clear with myself about not trying to turn non-monogamy into monogamy and keeping separate sets of expectations.
I am still doing the "slow" relationship thing despite Mr OLD being clear that is not looking for monogamy. Might as well get in some practice! No tons of chitty chat texts. He does like to text though. Quick to reply. We texted yesterday to set up the next meeting. Next meeting is a walk in the forest and likely food after. I do really want to get naked with him but I am seeing the use in not being in such a hurry. Find out the info first and then see if what is on offer aligns with what I want and am willing to participate in.
I invited Mr Lime to NYE at my friend's house. Ms CG left him alone on Xmas day. I invited him to my house to hang out on Xmas day but he hit the booze early, I think as an excuse to hang around at his house and see if Ms CG could squeeze him in for a minute. I actually called him. He seemed so down.
I have had many a holiday with my "partner" doing other things that didn't include me. I know the feeling of waiting around to see if might get some breadcrumbs.
I don't think Mr Lime will actually show up but he is welcome if he does.
Prof has family coming into town. I asked to meet some ( basically being evil, I wanted to see his reaction ). He said I could meet them, but I would need to be introduced as a "friend and caregiver". I told him I was sorry that he felt at his age and with his illness he still had to live his life "in the closet". ( Yup, being evil ) I won't actually ask again. I just wanted to see how he would attempt to cover me up. I am fine with just the driving and told him to let me know when the next trip was.
I talked with the shelter animal behaviorist and the cats are on "confinement unless supervised." Child the Younger left their bedroom door open, even after I asked them if it was shut, and of course a roaming cat peed on their bed.
But they are doing well. I wake up to 2 cats on my bed in the morning and they are playing and loved getting brushed.