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Pretty much no one that I know of who is my age considers pornography any kind of cheating. Admittedly most of my social circle is full of queers, but even among my nonqueer friends, the only issues seem arise around "you're consuming too much porn and not paying attention to me enough." Which...

This is my first week of trial every-other-week with my therapist, and I'm doing great, which makes me happy. Well, happier. I'm pretty damn happy in general lately. I love my job. It can be very stressful, but I'm doing work that I enjoy and find personally fulfilling. Today, I'm thinking...

Don't get too hung up on labels. When you say you want to be primary, does it mean you want to hear him say it? Because just saying a word won't change his behavior. And I suspect from your posts that it's his behavior, not the lack of label, that's getting to you. I'd stay focused on his...

I very much hope there's a test-driving car update ahead because I'm ALSO looking at giving away my current no-payment car (to my parents) and am ALSO looking between Subaru Outback/Forester and the Honda CRV, sooooo...

Trying to make time for updates when I'm in the middle of a video game craze and actually having to work consistently at work now (!!!) is difficult. I feel like I've fallen behind! I have to remind myself that I'm not actually responsible for posting here and I just do it because I like it...

This is just my personal suspicion, but I suspect that the people who are comparing coming out as poly to a mono partner with plane crashes, etc, don't have much personal experience with having a closeted identity. The choices of "do you do heroin" or "do you fly in a plane" are not really...

Despite continued drama in the saga of replacing my water heater, I'm maintaining a good mood. It's kind of crazy that this is probably the longest period that I've been in a middling-or-better mood since I was in my preteens. And this is despite things that would normally send me...

To address the question in the OP, no, I don't think it's irresponsible to tell polyamorous people that being in a relationship with a monogamous person won't work, because it can. Sure, you can say you don't think it would be likely. You can say that it doesn't work 90% of the time in your...

In other good news, I'm graduating to a trial "every other week instead of every week" in therapy. I'm stable enough that I don't need that weekly level of support, and the strategies we're putting into place are helping me cope with stress/the unexpected/anxiety and disappointment/the...

Whether he's a "man of his word" or not doesn't matter. He's not the one you're in a relationship with. She's the one responsible for her actions. And twice in a single month, she has broken your trust. I would end the relationship. I wouldn't be able to trust her after she broke an...

The weekend was fantastic! I managed to get my wildflower seeds in on Saturday before it decided to pour rain for two days, which makes me happy. I was going to try to get them down last weekend but ended up with the stomach flu instead. Friday night I had a date with Raven. We got food at a...

You've pretty much nailed why I only ever read the blog section any more. For what it's worth, I think it would be equally silly to judge you for being poly-fi as it is to judge... well, anyone else on what relationship style best suits them. But people love to have opinions and those on the...

I have a date tonight with Raven. It'll be our first solo date night in something like a month? I'm looking forward to just hanging out. The last couple days with Guitarist have been really great. We've enjoyed spending down time together co-op playing Space Engineers, building space ships...

I've been down with the stomach flu or food poisoning since Saturday. It's really been no fun. Sunday I went to the Urgent Care, because I suspected trichinosis from the quite possibly undercooked pork dumplings we had on Thursday night, but the doctor was very dismissive of that. So I guess...

I now have two dates with Raven this weekend. We're getting dinner together Friday and maybe doing some low-key hanging out on Saturday after she gets done working that day. I can't believe I was almost ready to throw the towel in on this relationship! When I stop letting my anxiety run me and...

In other news, I have a dinner date with Raven on Friday. It's really weird but I stopped worrying about how things are going and now they're going fine. She said she was having A Week and it would give her something to look forward to, and that made me feel warm and happy. Pretty sure that's...

My new job has really cut into the amount of time I have for posting here! Or really it's more the amount of energy. I'm typically quite tired when I get home from work and whatever I have scheduled after work, and my lulls at work where I used to post are a little harder to come by. I went...

My general impression is that B should probably stop asking about details of what A does with A's intimate partners. I doubt A would be saying that this is a reoccurring problem unless it has happened before. The frustration about it is very clear. Maybe focusing on different fantasies while...

Counseling yesterday was amazing for helping me to manage my anxiety about the upcoming party. My counselor had figured out anxiety, but she didn't realize I had issues to that extent. To be fair, the whole suicidal depression thing really did need to be handled first, but it seems like I have...

I want to know up-front. I've had somewhat limited success finding other poly women to date in my rural area through OKC but that's still my preferred method for meeting people.