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I don't know why I'm here this early in the morning, except that it's Friday and it's accordingly hard to focus at work. I had a good date night Wednesday with Guitarist, to celebrate the way our state supreme court came out on a very important issue. He babbled excitedly about music a lot of...

Well, last week was The Lost Week. Med changes led to some serious brain fog, nausea, and vertigo. "Mild" SSRI withdrawal was a fucking nightmare of constant headache and nausea, serious periods of brain fog (I still have these, but they're mild), vertigo, and sudden and crippling fatigue...

This one's going to be more mental health than poly stuff, but they kind of go hand in hand for me. I'm fortunate to have some very good therapists in my life. My counselor on Monday notice right away that I was very high-energy and asked me what's been going on, so I had to admit that I've...

I hear you on not wanting to go to those expensive places that you can't pay your own way at. I don't like other people paying for my meals, and I don't like paying for other people's. The first might not be intended in a toxic masculinity way but it always comes off that way to me, even when...

Further proof that I don't post that much when things going well! I had a great tea with... I think I called her Punk, but I'm actually going to call her Teal because that seems to suit her better. We really hit it off, to the point where we were just talking and talking, and then suddenly the...

Ugh period blues, they are the total suck. In poly news, I'm not sure things are going to go anywhere with the shy woman, but we did exchange numbers and are texting semi-regularly. She hooked me up with a podcast app that's been fabulous so far. I always had trouble figuring out how to get...

Well, since I have a major headache but don't want to burn through my sick time and am ahead on my current work projects, I guess I'll post some more. Seeing Flame was fabulous. The drive wasn't bad at all because of the variations in the landscape and because I was listening to Come As You...

How you define an open relationship is up to you and your partner. It's really very dangerous to rely on unspoken rules because, unlike with monogamy, we don't all operate under the same basic assumptions. And even IN monogamy, there are lines that might be crossed and things you may have to...

This cult is no more or less believable than some other cults I know about through experience, including one that I lost one of my cousins to, or the one that my other cousin+spouse+13 kids belongs to, or the cult-looking left lesbi group that flashes across my OKC every now and then with a huge...

I have a love-hate relationship with my LDR with Flame. On the one hand, it's really nice to have a relaxing vacation with someone you love. On the other, I miss Guitarist and my pets while I'm out there. Now, I'm delighted to have Guitarist and my pets back in my life, but I miss Flame...

I always roll my eyes when armchair anthropologists come out of the woodwork with their pseudobiology gender-essentialist theories. There are so many different cultures, historically and present day, with different ideas on mating, raising children, gender, etc., that these theories tend to...

I feel like every time I'm going on vacation, I've never felt prepared for leaving, with a few exceptions of having a couple days off in advance to prepare. Today, I was woken up by the following things: I couldn't fall asleep to begin with. The bedroom was full of off-putting smells and I'm...

I feel entirely, utterly unprepared to drive out to visit Flame this coming weekend. At the same time, I'm 100% over working and this is the slowest that time has passed in my life. Ugh.

That's the nice thing about my relationship with Guitarist. We always talk about everything and, even when we're both upset, we practice nonviolent communication. It always seems to me like we're trying to reach solutions instead of placing blame. Which helps me a lot because I'm the anal one...

Hugs totally accepted Pink Pig, thank you. I seem to recall reading about your struggles with Blue. I'm glad you're happier now! It turns out, contrary to my mental impression, Guitarist did think about it. He just thought that since we had already decided to go back to barriers, it wouldn't...

Okay. We texted it out and I'm feeling a lot less FEELINGS about everything. He did think about it, but he thought that I'd be safe from any risks because we'd already talked about going back to barriers anyway, so he didn't think it would affect me. Where as I'm like, yeah, but that's barriers...

I think what is bothering me is that the unilateral decision-making to proceed without a NEGATIVE test, when Guitarist should have known that would really bother me, feels very inconsiderate of my feelings as a partner. No, I don't have the right to make that decision about HIS relative risks...

I'm having a lot of Feelings today. Guitarist told me he was going to get up to sexy things with Bee, and they were getting tested, to which I was like "okay." And then he told me that he had got up to things with Bee, and they had gotten tested and weren't showing symptoms of anything, and...

Thank you. It helps to know that I'm not alone in how shitty this feeling is. I wish there was something I could do to alleviate the trapped feeling brought on by about $100k of non-dischargeable debt, but there is literally nothing practical to do about it, short of entirely leaving my life...

Every time I come across some argument like this (are people born queer or is it a choice?) (are you born trans or is it a choice?) (are you born poly or is it a choice?) it seems to me like a ridiculous question. People ARE queer, trans, poly, and all sorts of other things. We should respect...