AutumnLeaves
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Nevermind about Guitarist's thing with Magical being resolved. He felt treated poorly by Magical in front of the new girlfriend on their usual Tuesday night game again this week. He raised it to her during a visit with her yesterday, and apparently she was very dismissive of his concerns or didn't understand them. Apparently he also asked her not to discuss her sex life with the new girlfriend with him, and she failed or refused to respect that boundary.
He tried to justify a lot of her behavior to me. To me, it sounds like she found her game changer and is deep in a frustrating level of NRE to the point she had alienated pretty much her entire sphere. But it's not like she sounds blameless in this situation or anything.
I don't blame him for deciding to end their 'ship under those circumstances. But he's still really bummed about it, for obvious reasons. We had a good date night last night with pizza and TV. But it sucks to see him hurting. I told Raven today that I hope he and Spice never break up. Which I then realized was probably about the most poly thing I've ever said.
In other fun news, my desktop computer died this morning. It posts but it shuts off while booting. I'm pretty sure that the power supply hasfinally given up, and I'm just so sick of stuff going wrong in it. In the last year or so, I've replaced the video card, RAM, case fan, and bought the wrong power supply for it. I'm done. I ordered a new computer, even though I really could have found other things to do with that money. I'm glad that I backed up most of my stuff after the case fan issues on Monday.
Thrash sent me a response to the poly sites I sent him. He said poly looks very complicated and he doesn't think he's poly himself, but he'd like to be my monogamous friend with benefits until he finds his "one," which he characterizes as unlikely. I told him I'd think about whether I wanted to do that and if it would work for me, and get back to him.
The logic of me knowing that wouldn't work is somewhat complicated by my general enjoyment of and attraction to him, the fact he's a direct communicator, and some serious feelings of what could have been back in my college days. Did I mention he's a thrash metal musician and also a complete nerd? I mean, he wears actual bracers as part of his outfit on a regular basis, and he's super sweet. I do have a type.
I just don't think it's a good idea logistically or with the way my anxiety works. If I realistically thought I could keep that in check, or not get too attached (and thus really hurt) when he decided to move on, it would be one thing. But I seem to work in an entire other way.
Ah well. I'm conflicted, so I'm going to give it a good think, but I'm leaning toward it being a bad idea.
Oh! One of my friends is having a birthday party in Chicago in August that I think I'm going to go to. Guitarist has indicated he would like to come too. It sounds like we are going to have a lot of mutual friends at this thing that we haven't seen in forever. This are is a friend where me and Guitarist went on an 11-hour roadtrip to their wedding when we'd been dating two weeks, and the friends who first introduced us to real kitchen-table style poly. They have since divorced and moved on but are still friends. And Flame (who is one of my friends from this group, who I met for the first time at that wedding) might come out too. I know Guitarist has said recently that he misses Flame, and it's been four or five years since we all hung out together, so that could be a really cool weekend day trip type thing.
So at least that's a possible thing to look forward to!
He tried to justify a lot of her behavior to me. To me, it sounds like she found her game changer and is deep in a frustrating level of NRE to the point she had alienated pretty much her entire sphere. But it's not like she sounds blameless in this situation or anything.
I don't blame him for deciding to end their 'ship under those circumstances. But he's still really bummed about it, for obvious reasons. We had a good date night last night with pizza and TV. But it sucks to see him hurting. I told Raven today that I hope he and Spice never break up. Which I then realized was probably about the most poly thing I've ever said.
In other fun news, my desktop computer died this morning. It posts but it shuts off while booting. I'm pretty sure that the power supply hasfinally given up, and I'm just so sick of stuff going wrong in it. In the last year or so, I've replaced the video card, RAM, case fan, and bought the wrong power supply for it. I'm done. I ordered a new computer, even though I really could have found other things to do with that money. I'm glad that I backed up most of my stuff after the case fan issues on Monday.
Thrash sent me a response to the poly sites I sent him. He said poly looks very complicated and he doesn't think he's poly himself, but he'd like to be my monogamous friend with benefits until he finds his "one," which he characterizes as unlikely. I told him I'd think about whether I wanted to do that and if it would work for me, and get back to him.
The logic of me knowing that wouldn't work is somewhat complicated by my general enjoyment of and attraction to him, the fact he's a direct communicator, and some serious feelings of what could have been back in my college days. Did I mention he's a thrash metal musician and also a complete nerd? I mean, he wears actual bracers as part of his outfit on a regular basis, and he's super sweet. I do have a type.
I just don't think it's a good idea logistically or with the way my anxiety works. If I realistically thought I could keep that in check, or not get too attached (and thus really hurt) when he decided to move on, it would be one thing. But I seem to work in an entire other way.
Ah well. I'm conflicted, so I'm going to give it a good think, but I'm leaning toward it being a bad idea.
Oh! One of my friends is having a birthday party in Chicago in August that I think I'm going to go to. Guitarist has indicated he would like to come too. It sounds like we are going to have a lot of mutual friends at this thing that we haven't seen in forever. This are is a friend where me and Guitarist went on an 11-hour roadtrip to their wedding when we'd been dating two weeks, and the friends who first introduced us to real kitchen-table style poly. They have since divorced and moved on but are still friends. And Flame (who is one of my friends from this group, who I met for the first time at that wedding) might come out too. I know Guitarist has said recently that he misses Flame, and it's been four or five years since we all hung out together, so that could be a really cool weekend day trip type thing.
So at least that's a possible thing to look forward to!