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Hi Sudo! I'm glad to hear polyamory is working out for you despite the challenge of finding someone for you as well. Hang in there, these things can be tricky, and like Kevin said, patience is key. What games do you play currently? :) And what are your all-time favourites?

I'm really sorry you're going through all this. What I'd have to add is that it looks to me you're mostly dealing with the aftermath of infidelity, with talk about polyamory just thrown on top almost as a distraction. I think other matters ought to take priority in discussion. Right now it's...

I'm really sorry you're struggling, CaptainCarrots. This must be pretty tough. I think I understand how you feel on some level. For reasons not too dissimilar to what you describe here, kink has not something I could not indulge in, and in some ways this took its toll, but eventually it was...

What GalaGirl said: he cannot make you do or not do something. The idea that he has the right to do so is very problematic. That said, I understand this is a very trying situation for him and exerting control is the only way he sees right now to establish a sense of security, which he is...

A good rule of thumb is that relationships should be self-determined, so other than very lightly touch on the topic showing you would be positive to such a development, if it were to occur, I think it's best to keep a discreet distance.

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Hypoly, I had been in a similar situation with your boyfriend's wife so I have a measure of sympathy for her, but no matter how frightening the premise may be, we can only set boundaries to things pertaining to us: our bodies, our personal space, our time. So it's wrong to set vetoes on what...

It's hard to tell by just one time you mentioned it. I'd say try to figure out first what it means to you as a fantasy. How you imagine it, what turns you on, why you want it. Then talk about it with her a bit more. Would it be something she would be interested in? Perhaps, perhaps not. Perhaps...

Hi JJ, It's not at all strange, in fact it's pretty common. Nothing wrong with that at all. https://edition.cnn.com/2018/01/25/health/cuckolding-sex-kerner/index.html Wifesharing and cuckolding are the more common terms, I think. Look around and you'll find plenty more about it. I hope it...

Hello there, It can happen, even when commitment is not truly in jeopardy. Desire is a complicated thing. Perhaps her own confusion or a sense of guilt towards you could inhibit her. Perhaps also the fact that you're not wholly on board (mind you, I'm saying this as far removed from any sense...

Hi FreddyApple, Writing this as a (probably) mono person with a more or less poly partner: I think there's a high cost in having to excise a part of your personality in order to be in a relationship. In my opinion before you dive into management mode (and grudgingly at that), it's probably best...

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zipp, it's very normal to go through such emotions. They're very torturing, it's true. I think most of what I would have to say has already been covered really well by Galagirl. Just wanted to add one more voice of encouragement. (I've been where you're at – in a triad with the other people in...

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You have a good point there, Ravenscroft. All this advice about handling jealousy when someone is suffering the most in mishandled situations can come across as irrelevant and sanctimonious. Hearing about compersion at my worst filled me with the urge to throw stuff at those smug (in my...

S01E01 was the National Anthem, right? That one was powerful. I think I struggled a bit overall with the oppressive atmosphere in the episodes I've watched. I suppose that's mostly the point of the whole series, though. Regarding music, when I asked you last time – I was wondering, do you miss...

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Glad you bumped this up, I found it very helpful, too.

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