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I agree. I should have been more clear. We are going to discuss boundaries and be more clear with each other in the future. What I did say was “I am picking up imodiom ad and not sure how that works with play time because I am sick” What I should have just said I do not feel well I will not...

I asked him to clarify what he meant when he said group work. He said he meant if one person was on in then no one is doing anything. Ok thats way different then what we heard. Especially over text. So yes again he lead her on. He said he never wanted to play. Just watch the movie and sleep.

Update again: Well last night was a big eye opener and left me with more questions than answers. I felt sick yesterday. I have stomach issues and every few months I just feel sick. So I let the group know during the day and said I wasn’t up for things but would like to still do dinner and a...

I think I understand this more now. You have needs that you are looking at to be maybe met by someone else. Preferably a women. You have needs. You have wants. So why not find a girlfriend? Why are you thinking at this point and time about his needs outside of you? What does he say on the...

Another thing to look at is what happens if you do find this person and everything goes good for a little bit but one person in the group decides they no longer want to be in one of the others lives. What if the girl falls in love with you but no longer wants a relationship with your guy? But...

Things do happen. Bad decisions are made sometimes. That does not make for a bad person. Just a bad decision. What happens after is what matters. Not saying what they did wasnt wrong but things do happen. Emotions are strong and sometimes people do stupid stuff.

Can it work? Yes I am in a triad that happened organically. Is it easy. Oh no way. Its super hard. Rewarding, yes. Fun yes. Like other relationships its work. But every crack that is in the triad will be right in front of you. So you have to do a lot of work on your self and the triad...

I do not have much advise for you other than I understand how you feel. Going through something similar myself so i understand the hurt and confusion. I think try and build trust right now. Talk and keep talking out your feelings. Let them know what they can do to build that trust back up.

As of right now I am deciding to go with the flow. I was very fine with turning it into a V with him at the hinge and then she just went after me (with touching and kissing) so I know nothing was forced on my part. I am just letting her take the lead and see where it goes.

If she was faking it that is super higher level faking it. Without being too tmi, I made her orgasm with the heavy petting, and without going into too much detail it wasnt faked.

Update: So even more confused than ever. We went to a museum yesterday the 3 of us. I had figured that I would keep my space from her (as far as touching goes) so to not make her uncomfortable. She ended up touching me the entire time and only touching madmaxx a few times. Later we go to the...

No I completely understand what you are saying. Madmaxx likes play. So maybe a swinger even if he isn’t currently looking. Me I am polyamourus but not usually open. I only said mono because i am not open to dating others right now (and possibly forever) but I do know I am polyamorous by heart.

Thank you for you responce. That gives me a lot to think about. I believe I have also had rose colored glasses for her too and have a hard time seeing past my own wants here.

Yes, I am certain there is some subconscious things going on with me. Why do I care how she views him. I view him the same way. And he views me the same way. So his love for me is not in question. I do however think sometimes I am not good enough. So that could be it. Even though i know I...

Caught up on sleep. Yay me. Things have been very different lately. I think the NRE is slightly wearing off for everyone and reality is setting in. Pip blurts a lot. She says things that are odd and make me uncomfortable. I do not know the meaning of them and I am honestly too afraid to...

Sex changes everything. Before you go further there are things to ask your self and they should do the same. Would you date her separately if you were not married. (You already answered this but think more about it) Because she is a friend her quirks may not bother you but once in a...

I'm not sure if "you guys go ahead and do what you will" is going to be a solution, long term - especially if subconsciously, you begin to resent them IF they DO take up your suggestion. Pip has told you she "probably" won't do anything with madmaxx alone, even given the opportunity, and he has...

I think I hit my wall today so to speak. I have told madmaxx no threesomes this week. If they want to go ahead they can but I am so tired I need sleep. I need to think.

Thank you and you are right. I am taking off Thursday, getting a sitter and me and madmaxx are sleeping. It doesnt help I also have a crazy personal life. (I work 4/10 shifts and am a year away from a psychology BA, oh and two kids) Madmaxx is also in a similar boat (self employeed) Pip is the...

That is exactly what I need. I am an introvert and need my alone time also. I can already tell I am starting to get cranky from the lack of sleep.